Monkey786: I know this post is old, but I thought I’d give my opinion, since I do consulting and am on the road 4 days a week, just like your husband would be. Honestly, I think it’s amazing, but there are pros and cons:
Free vacations! Most firms let you keep all those hotel and airline points, so basically every vacation I’ve taken over the last four years has been free (SE Asia, Europe, S. America twice, etc, etc). Also, because he travels so much, you get crazy upgrades at all the hotels (in Thailand they gave us a private villa with a pool and it was FREE)
Alone time. You don’t realize you need this, but sometimes it’s nice to have a night to veg out and not do the dishes. As long as they’re done by Thursday, no need to worry! From his perspective, it allows him to focus completely on his job during the week, meaning the weekends can be spent completely focusing on the relationship. I really love this separation in my life and actually feel like it allows me to be a more complete person
Flexibility. While this TOTALLY depends on the firm/project, most consulting firms understand that the lifestyle is not sustainable so they bend over backwards to create flexibility on Fridays and weekends. I usually work from home, and am typically done by 2pm on Fridays
Perks: There are so many perks in consulting for a big firm. Pay is great, but there are also little bonuses. He’ll get to keep the points from his AmEx (gift cards!), usually firms have some sort of “fitness subsidy” (gym is free!) and there are lots of other smaller perks (parties at the office)
Paternity Leave: Most firms have very generous paternity leave policies. My firm had like 2-3 weeks paid leave
The work is awesome. The projects are interesting and fulfilling. That’s SO important.
Terrible for families: I have seen SO many partners chatting with their crying kids over Skype and it breaks my heart every time. One of my colleagues put it best when he said, “You aren’t going to win father of the year working here”. No matter how hard he tries, being there only 50% of the time simply limits his abilities to be a good parent.
Infidelity: If you don’t trust him, then this should be an absolutely no-go. I often talk to my fiance about how important trust is in our relationship because it would be ridiculously easy to cheat (for either of us). I’ve seen cheating amongst colleagues countless times, but this truly boils down to the person doing the cheating – most the time they’re a sleezebag anyways. If you trust him, this should be a non-issue
Stress: Consulting is a stressful job. There are tight deadlines, difficult clients, and long hours. It’s better than investment banking, but I’ve had weeks where I worked 120 hours and only slept 2 hours a night (there’s a reason the pay is so high!). It took a toll on my relationships because I was tired and grouchy all the time. That said, I also had projects where I only worked like 35 hours a week.
Weight Gain: Okay, this is silly, but so true. There’s the “consulting 15” because you’re eating out at nice restaurants all the time. It truly is difficult to balance and is something no one told me about before I went into the job
Bottom line: The job is totally worth it, but be prepared to essentially become a single mom during the week. For the short-term, I think it’s a wonderful profession that will offer lots of exit opportunities for when he is looking to spend more time off the road