Post # 1
Bees, what would you consider the pros and cons of taking a postponed honeymoon? Do any of you have any regrets about the timing or do you think waiting made it more enjoyable?
My Fiance and I are not sure if we want to take our honeymoon right away. Well, we’re not sure if we’ll be able to now. He just started a new job so I’m not sure if he’ll be able to get that kind of time off for some time yet. I like the idea of being able to set aside some money. It seems to me that it would be more enjoyable since we would hopefully have a little cushion stashed away just for the honeymoon. I’m just worried that if we don’t go right away that it really won’t feel like a honeymoon. I’m worried I will feel like I missed out on something. I guess I’m also worried that life will just get in the way if we wait too long.
We would really like to go to Virginia, but I’m not sure of the best time of year to visit either. We had planned on waiting a week or to (go in September) so that hopefully some of the crowds would die away. I’m curious as to whether it would be worth it to visit around Christmas as well.
Thanks in advance! Sorry if this sounds whiny or anything. We were not even sure if we would be able to have a honeymoon until recently. We’ve had a rough past two years (which is why I’m really thinking of saving and waiting).
Post # 3
I voted 6-12 months and we wish we’d gone sooner. I realize we’re not 6-12 months out, but we have no foreseeable plans to take our Honeymoon in the next 5 months. We just don’t have the funds right now without putting it on a credit card and don’t want to do that.
I’ll admit I’m disappointed. We DID go on a “mini-moon” which made it sting a little less! But yeah I already regret waiting. I didn’t think I would at all! I’m normally not that type of girl, but for whatever reason it felt wrong to be back at work during the following week.
Post # 4
@AmeliaBedelia: Yeah that’s what I’m worried about. Do you think you may go on a trip for your anniversary instead?
We’ve thought about maybe taking a mini-moon to Chicago since that’s relatively close to us. The cost of gas would be so much less… Ugh. Then we would possibly go to Virginia for our anniversary instead.
I think I’m worried about being bummed because we’ve never really gone on a vacation alone together. It’s all been family vacations or one trip with friends. We don’t plan on having kids for some time yet, but things happen. I’m worried we’ll end up getting pregnant sooner than we’d like and then the honeymoon will go right out the window. C’est la vie.
Post # 5
We aren’t married yet, but we plan to take a couple days right after the wedding and “get away” somewhat close to home, then take our “official” honeymoon sometime during the following summer. The reasons are 1. so that we can save some extra money first, and 2. I will be taking some classes then, and won’t be able to get away for long.
I think all the reasons you listed to postpone it are completely reasonable. I also worry about the “life getting in the way” thing if we wait, but I figure if we make it a priority it shouldn’t be too much of a problem. The way I figure it, it gives you something else exciting to look forward to once all the wedding day stuff is over. 🙂
Post # 6
@FloretteLiz: Wow, I could have written that. lol. We haven’t gone on a trip just the two of us either! Other than our mini-moon. Our mini-moon was fantastic. We only went 2 hours away to a place called Callaway Gardens. We stayed in a private cottage and did all the attractions and had a lovely time, but yeah, I do feel like we missed out a bit by not staying longer or not going somewhere new and fun.
We may go somewhere for our anniversary, but only if our finances improve. We are both recent college grads and neither of us are making good money yet. We also worry about the idea that “life will get in the way” of us taking a real honeymoon. I mean it isn’t the end of the world, but it would sure be nice!
I don’t think waiting a few weeks would be an issue – I think THAT would still feel like a honeymoon since it wouldn’t be too long after your wedding. Even a Chicago mini-moon – how long would you guys stay for a mini-moon? We only stayed for 3 days/2 nights, and I think that had a lot to do with being bummed. I keep thinking that staying at least 4 nights would have somehow felt “better.” I know, I sound crazy. Lol.
Maybe you could do an “extended Mini-Moon” (<– like 4/5 nights) in Chicago and still have time to save up for Virginia a year later? Btw, Virginia is pretty all the time but I prefer the fall months. Why? It isn’t so damn hot! haha.
Post # 7
@tam1006: Yeah I agree with how you feel about having something else to look forward to post wedding planning.
@AmeliaBedelia: Lol to what you said about the heat! I think that’s another good reason to wait on going to Virginia (at least for a little bit). We’d probably do the same amount of time you did. We’ve both been to Chicago before so it would just kind of be a nice “breather.” He wants to move there in the next few years too so I guess I’m not too worried about staying there longer than two nights.
Hmm… you ladies are making me like the mini-moon/postponed honeymoon idea a bit more. It might be nicer to save some extra money and really enjoy our time in a new place.
Post # 8
We have lived overseas for 2 years and don’t really want to travel when we finally get home and get married, so we will not be taking a honeymoon. We are just going to be happy settling down in our new place and enjoying married life.
Because of the nature of our jobs, we will probably not take a honeymoon unti 2-3 years after the wedding. I am totally fine with this, and actually think for us I prefer it. I think the wedding is celebration enough for the beginning of our marriage, and it would be fun to use the honeymoon to celebrate our first few years as newlyweds, something else to look forward to. We will proably start thinking about kids 4 or so years after we are married, so taking a big, wonderful trip before that seems just about perfect to me 🙂
Post # 9
We took a long weekend right after the wedding, but our “real” honeymoon was an 8 month backpacking trip through Asia and New Zealand that we started a couple of weeks before our 1-year anniversary. Zero regrets here!
Post # 10
We were married in November and went on our Honeymoon in February. I work for a school, so I had to wait for school vacation and we didn’t want to go over Christmas/New years.
I liked having something else to plan and look forward to after the wedding, but I will say it would have been really nice to get away the week after the wedding. I was so tired and overwhelmed after the wedding and had to go back to work…I cried every day for a week. We also didn’t really get any time to process the fact that we got married until we finally got away together.
That said, I loved our Honeymoon and probably wouldn’t have changed anything…maybe we should’ve gone away for a night or 2 after the wedding…like a mini moon? Just to have time to be alone and realize how awesome being married is!
Post # 11
we have both agreed that we want to go the day after the wedding. as much as i realise how exhausting it is, we won’t be getting a really early flight (1pm) and we’ll have the entire day on the plane to chill out a bit (9+ hours as we’re going from London – Disney Florida).
we both felt that we wanted the wedding to last ‘over 2 weeks’ instead of 1 day, and we figured that if we went straight away it would feel like it’s all part of it.
i think what really convinced us was when our friends went on their honeymoon 3 months after their wedding and they referred to it as a ‘holiday’ which was a shame
Post # 12
@pinkandsparkly: this. exactly.
While I will say I wish I had taken a mini-moon right after – even booking a nice hotel room and doing a few couple-y things in our own city right after the wedding would have been awesome. You just need that time alone together after the craziness, to snuggle together and let it soak in that you’re flipping married.
But we waited to take our honeymoon for financial and weather reasons – we were married in late October and took our honeymoon in February. We did a week on the coast of Spain in February instead of enduring yet ANOTHER week of 30 feet snowdrifts and -40 windchill. It half felt like an awesome vacation (first time for Darling Husband flying overseas) with an extra special twist. No regrets.
Post # 13
We waited for financial and timing reasons. A bit of a bummer before the wedding but our wedding was Out of Town for us, so it was one less planning pain. It also was fun to plan all winter long.
If you are doing Virginia in the fall, wait until mid-October if you can. Beautiful with the leaves changing!
Post # 14
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
We’re doing the mini-moon/ later Honeymoon, mainly because we’re going to New Zealand, and their summer is during our winter, so we’ll honeymoon in December.
Our mini-moon will be something close and drivable, within 2-3 hours, where we’ll stay probably 3 nights.
Virginia will be a lot nicer (less humid, etc) in September than October. Where in Va are you looking to visit?
Post # 15
Thanks for sharing ladies! I’m not feeling so bummed about waiting to go on the honeymoon now. I think we’ll try to go on a mini-moon if we can and wait on the trip to Virginia for a bit. That would probably work much better with my FI’s new job too.
I’m happy to see that even though some of you were a little sad at waiting that you still wouldn’t change a thing!
@rebwana: We wanted to visit the historic triangle. We were hoping to save up enough money to stay at a nice little kid free B&B in Williamsburg. If we wanted to go this year I think we might be able to if we waited until October and just get a cheap hotel room. We were also thinking of splitting it so that we only stayed in Williamsburg for 3 nights and then go up to DC for 2 nights. We’d just stay in an inexpensive hotel there and visit all the monuments.
Post # 16
My husband and I really wanted to go to Europe on our honeymoon but knew it wouldn’t be possible right after the wedding (11/11/11) for financial and timing reasons. So we took a mini-moon to NYC for five days right after the wedding and then went to Europe for eleven days four months later. Granted a lot of people gave us a TON of flack for this saying most people would be overjoyed to have a five day honeymoon to NYC and that we were being selfish calling it a mini-moon, but in our eyes that is what it was. I’m very glad we did the NYC trip though, because I do think it is important to “get away” right after the wedding. So get away right after, even if it is just for one day, and then have fun planning your longer trip for later. My husband and I had an amazing time on our honeymoon even if it was four months later.