Bees who work full-tim and/or have a family and/or work 2 jobs — it's TOUGH!!!!

posted 2 years ago in Beehive
Post # 2
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2661 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I have a full time job and two kids and I was a single mom for 5 years!  I just accept the fact that I am tired all the time and rarely exercise.  Pretty much every minute I am not at work, I am running a kid somewhere. 

Post # 3
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Bee Keeper

I did most of my wedding planning on my breaks at work. I have 2-3 hour commute per day (depending on traffic), and would make calls from the car. It really wasn’t that taxing…I think if you have decent organization/time management skills, it can be done. We did our wedding on a modest, but decent budget and it required some research.

I would plan meetings with vendors, cake tastings, alterations/fittings for the same day and knock them out all at once.

Post # 4
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743 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Our Backyard/Steakhouse

Yep, I work full time and have two kids (ages 6&7).

You learn to prioritize your time, I don’t always get the laundry done, or the dishes put away when I want to but in the end it all works out.  

Even though FI will often work 50-60 hr weeks, we manage to get things done between us.

Post # 5
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744 posts
Busy bee

BurlapnLace:  I haven’t figured it out yet, but just wanted to commiserate and tag in to see if anyone else has good suggestions!  We’re trying to find a caterer right now, and it’s been a challenge to set up a time to talk to them.  My work is pretty flexible about taking personal calls, but I don’t have a reliable space to speak privately and don’t want to be THAT coworker who is on the phone for 30 minutes planning her wedding for everyone to hear.

Post # 7
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2891 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

BurlapnLace: This is why wedding planning as a job exists. It is A LOT of work, but the way I do it is by figuring out my hourly rate (different for everyone) and then make a quick build vs. buy calculation for DIY vs. vendor supplied. 

In terms of vetting and negotiating with vendors, I start every conversation with “is now a good time? I have X minutes, but wanted to touch base / ask / whatever…”

I never name a number first and ask them for pricing packages. Then I slice and dice down to what I want / need. I also ask them for their minimum price for the most bare bones. I try to find the sweet spot between service that’s needed and price. That’s a lot of work too, and I go through the same calculation — savings vs. hourly rate. 

hope that helps!

Post # 8
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9949 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Can you email?  Then call on your break to follow up.

Post # 9
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8680 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I know exactly how you feel. I am currently working 10.5 hours on weekdays and 14 hours on weekends. This is on top of a 2 hour combined comute to & from work. Needless to say, I don’t have alot of time to wedding plan. I mainly work on it on my days off.

The only thing I have in my favor is that from Dec – Feb I work from home at my company, so I was able to get ALOT of planning done during that time. I tackled most of my DIY projects then.

But quite honestly, I’ve just learned to let go of things that aren’t all that important. Cake? I picked out a pretty design, and that was that. I didn’t spend months figuring out what I wanted. My bms picked out a dress that was flattering, shoes to go with it and that was it. For my groom, he chose something that fit and was black, and we purchased it. I just don’t have the time or energy to waste on small details that won’t even matter to me on the big day.

Post # 10
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535 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I was thinking the very same thing today. I have 4 kids, work full time, commute 45 mins each way every day WITH 2 of them, AND shuttle them to scouts, therapists,  playdates and sleepovers. I am always tired and (excuse my french) my house is always a motherfucking mess! I dont wear makeup anymore,  I mostly shop at old Navy – because I know my size and never have to try anything on – my hair is in a bun, and occasionally I fall asleep at night before brushing my teeth. FI and I are usually too tired for sex and I have a headache damn near every day. I know they’ll be grown before I know it; and I’m sure one day I’ll miss this, but holy shit– slow the world the hell down…I want to get off! </rant>

Post # 11
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436 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

BurlapnLace:  Wedding is in november. FI and I have 10 kids between us and we both work 40+ hrs a week. I am in my bachelors program (currently on summer break) and I go to the gym 4-5 times a week for 1 to 2 hours.  5 boys in football, one boy in karate, a girl w/ cello lesson and another who just needs extra attention. It takes a lot to juggle all the craziness. We are all over the place w/ wedding planning. We have all the details worked out except the dress and decorations. But the dress is stressing me out. 

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Post # 13
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436 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

msfreemis:  LMAO ahahaha too funny. I don’t know, I am sure there are people out there that have a lot more going on than I do. Not many but some lol

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