Post # 1
We are a little under 5 months to the big day. I work 9+ hours a day and am either at the gym working out or teaching class. I’m basically out of the house for almost 12 hours. When I get home, I have to cook and clean, find time to eat and god dammit, I’m going to take 30min to relax!! This exact routine applies to my FI as well.
I find it SO taxing having to call vendors during the day while I’m at work, but I don’t want to do it on on the little free time I have!
Then I think of the bees who have children to take care of on top of everything, HOW do you do it??!
We do not have the luxury of choosing the first vendor that comes along and saying, “We’ll take it!” Everything has been a price comparison, quotes, negotiating, phone calls out the ass and a lot of leg work. I know this is a case for most brides! Even if we had the money, I’m still looking for a deal.
This wedding is not fun anymore!! ::POUTS::
So ladies, how far out are you and how are you dealing??
Post # 2
I have a full time job and two kids and I was a single mom for 5 years! I just accept the fact that I am tired all the time and rarely exercise. Pretty much every minute I am not at work, I am running a kid somewhere.
Post # 3
I did most of my wedding planning on my breaks at work. I have 2-3 hour commute per day (depending on traffic), and would make calls from the car. It really wasn’t that taxing…I think if you have decent organization/time management skills, it can be done. We did our wedding on a modest, but decent budget and it required some research.
I would plan meetings with vendors, cake tastings, alterations/fittings for the same day and knock them out all at once.
Post # 4
- Wedding: October 2014 - Our Backyard/Steakhouse
Yep, I work full time and have two kids (ages 6&7).
You learn to prioritize your time, I don’t always get the laundry done, or the dishes put away when I want to but in the end it all works out.
Even though FI will often work 50-60 hr weeks, we manage to get things done between us.
Post # 5
BurlapnLace: I haven’t figured it out yet, but just wanted to commiserate and tag in to see if anyone else has good suggestions! We’re trying to find a caterer right now, and it’s been a challenge to set up a time to talk to them. My work is pretty flexible about taking personal calls, but I don’t have a reliable space to speak privately and don’t want to be THAT coworker who is on the phone for 30 minutes planning her wedding for everyone to hear.
Post # 6
goblueca: It’s a bitch, right?? Things I expect to take 5 minutes turn into 20 and I get stuck on the phone with my boss in the room. I try and keep it short, but it never turns out that way!
Post # 7
BurlapnLace: This is why wedding planning as a job exists. It is A LOT of work, but the way I do it is by figuring out my hourly rate (different for everyone) and then make a quick build vs. buy calculation for DIY vs. vendor supplied.
In terms of vetting and negotiating with vendors, I start every conversation with “is now a good time? I have X minutes, but wanted to touch base / ask / whatever…”
I never name a number first and ask them for pricing packages. Then I slice and dice down to what I want / need. I also ask them for their minimum price for the most bare bones. I try to find the sweet spot between service that’s needed and price. That’s a lot of work too, and I go through the same calculation — savings vs. hourly rate.
hope that helps!
Post # 8
Can you email? Then call on your break to follow up.
Post # 9
I know exactly how you feel. I am currently working 10.5 hours on weekdays and 14 hours on weekends. This is on top of a 2 hour combined comute to & from work. Needless to say, I don’t have alot of time to wedding plan. I mainly work on it on my days off.
The only thing I have in my favor is that from Dec – Feb I work from home at my company, so I was able to get ALOT of planning done during that time. I tackled most of my DIY projects then.
But quite honestly, I’ve just learned to let go of things that aren’t all that important. Cake? I picked out a pretty design, and that was that. I didn’t spend months figuring out what I wanted. My bms picked out a dress that was flattering, shoes to go with it and that was it. For my groom, he chose something that fit and was black, and we purchased it. I just don’t have the time or energy to waste on small details that won’t even matter to me on the big day.
Post # 10
I was thinking the very same thing today. I have 4 kids, work full time, commute 45 mins each way every day WITH 2 of them, AND shuttle them to scouts, therapists, playdates and sleepovers. I am always tired and (excuse my french) my house is always a motherfucking mess! I dont wear makeup anymore, I mostly shop at old Navy – because I know my size and never have to try anything on – my hair is in a bun, and occasionally I fall asleep at night before brushing my teeth. FI and I are usually too tired for sex and I have a headache damn near every day. I know they’ll be grown before I know it; and I’m sure one day I’ll miss this, but holy shit– slow the world the hell down…I want to get off! </rant>
Post # 11
BurlapnLace: Wedding is in november. FI and I have 10 kids between us and we both work 40+ hrs a week. I am in my bachelors program (currently on summer break) and I go to the gym 4-5 times a week for 1 to 2 hours. 5 boys in football, one boy in karate, a girl w/ cello lesson and another who just needs extra attention. It takes a lot to juggle all the craziness. We are all over the place w/ wedding planning. We have all the details worked out except the dress and decorations. But the dress is stressing me out.
Post # 13
msfreemis: LMAO ahahaha too funny. I don’t know, I am sure there are people out there that have a lot more going on than I do. Not many but some lol