Bees who've had your tubes tied

posted 3 years ago in Wellness
Post # 3
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3735 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Ninteenthchance:  I’d recommend an IUD like Mirena for another 10 years or so. You may change your mind come your early thirties.

Post # 4
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8425 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Ninteenthchance:  I’m still trying to get a doctor to do this, but I’m 33 and haven’t had any kids yet.  Apparently doctors think I’m going to change my mind or something.  I would call your insurance and see if they cover it first though (mine does, I just can’t find a doctor lol).

Post # 5
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2696 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@LilRhodyGem:  I wouldn’t recommend Mirena. It’s only “good” for 5 years and have heard way too many horror stories with it.

Copper IUD’s are good for 10 years, which I have, and love.

I totally get you not wanting more kids after 2. If we even have a second, I will be DONE after that (and I don’t even know if I want to have that second child yet).

I hate how doctors give women a hard time about this, because they are young. Have you discussed this with them? Are they willing to give you the procedure?

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@urchin:  

@Ninteenthchance:  My experience with Mirena has been awesome. I’m 3 years into its 5 year life. I will have it removed and a new one inserted same day. It’s been the best option for me.

Post # 7
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9137 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@Ninteenthchance:  Unless you have health problems related to pregnancy, you might have trouble finding a doctor willing to do the surgery before you’re 30 unless you have 5+ children.  I second the recommendation to get an IUD or implant for birth control for the next few years.

BTW it’s way easier for a guy to find a doctor willing to do a vas if he already has two kids so if you really want someone to be sterile, he would be the better choice.

Finally, a vas is usually a couple hundred dollars for the deductible or your copay if he does the in office procedure.  You on the other hand would shell out a couple thousand in your deductible and coinsurance for outpatient or inpatient surgery at a hospital or surgery center depending on which the doctor thinks is best.

Post # 8
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11379 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@Ninteenthchance:  i think i was around 26 with 1 child when i had my tubes tied. 

i have known some people have the procedure done immediately following the birth of their last child.  you can always ask your dr if this could be an option for you.

Post # 11
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436 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@LilRhodyGem:  +1 !!

I had four children by the time i was 25 and decided I was done (I was also doubting my marriage at the time and didn’t want more children with my husband at that time). Fast Forward 5 years (and add a very happy relationship) and now I wish I had waited so I could have had just one child with my FI. I agree, get an IUD and wait. Those are just as effective as a tubal and ARE reversable. Best to hold off. You are young and you may change your mind. I know I did … even after FOUR! 🙂

Post # 12
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9137 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

I’m going out on a limb here and guessing that you aren’t yet married to the father of your children since you are still on your parents’ insurance; once you’re married, you won’t qualify for your parents’ insurance because you will no longer be considered a dependent.  Will you then have your own individual insurance or will you pick up your husband’s insurance to cover you?  What if the marriage never happens and in 5-10 years you meet and marry a new man and want to have kids with him?  That is a lot of unanswered questions.  I still think an IUD is a good idea for the next 3-5 years and then if you still want to be sterilized, go for it.

Post # 13
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1241 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@Ninteenthchance:  I was 23 when I had my tubes tied, cut and burned. I went through 3 different OB’s before I found one that would do the surgery. I was also pregnant with child #2 at the time. Given the complicated births that I had, I knew I was done. (As a side note, I detested every moment of being pregnant)

I’m 12 years out from that, and haven’t had any issues since. We still used backup birth control for two months, just to make sure no pesky eggs had escaped, but it’s been good for me.

I don’t recall what I paid for it, but it’s been 12 years, so prices change. 

Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@Ninteenthchance:  there are different options that you have.  i was still rather young so the dr clamped the tube (like an alligator clip) instead of cutting it.  a reversal is easiest with this method should you change your mind.   perhaps your dr will feel the same and suggest this too. 

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