Post # 1
What is the age gap between your kids? Or what kind of age gap do you want?
FI and I had a son in September last year, so he is about 7 1/2 months old, and we have started thinking about when to have baby number 2 and what kind of age gap we want. FI wants a larger gap, like 5 years, but I don’t really want that. I would love to try for baby number 2 after our first wedding anniversary (we are getting married this July, so it would be July 2012) so bub would be born around April/ May 2013. FIs bday is August and DS is September and our wedding anniversary will be July, so April/ May would be a good time of year for us.
That would leave a good 2.5yrs – 3yr age gap between them. I think that this would be a good compromise between FI and I (I originally wanted to try for bub #2 August this year after the wedding so there would be 2 years between them) but FI would prefer to wait.
What do you mummies out there think? How far apart are your kids?
Post # 3
Not a mum yet, but I’ve been a nanny for years and I’ve seen lots of different age differences in kids. I think anything less than 2.5 years difference increases the chance your kids will fight a lot. Especially with girls. I once nannied for girls that were 2 years apart and they could not get along for more than 15 minutes at a time. They hardly ever played together, and I was constantly seperating them. On the other hand I nannied for a family with a 12 year old boy, 9 year old girl, 6 year old girl and newborn boy, and the kids all got on really really well. Obviously parenting styles influence how kids get on, but personally I think 3-4 years is a perfect gap. My sister is 3.5 years younger and we hardly fought and are great friends now.
Post # 4
Well, my younger brother and I are 13 months apart and we never fought growing up, and my younger sisters are 2 years apart and they never fought either, so I dont really think the close age gap causes fights. My two cousins (brother and sister) and 2 years apart and have always gotten along great! I think it is more how the children are parented and raised.
I guess my post is more in regards to how do parents cope having two young kids.
Post # 5
‘bees with kids’ made me laugh I wanted our kids ~2 years apart, no more than 3, but now I don’t know…I think it will be awhile before I’m ready to go there again. LO is 8 months.
Post # 6
Addie’s 10 months (almost 11)… we’re hoping to have a gap of no more than 2 years. 😉
Post # 7
Mine are two years apart it was perfect. You get through the baby stage pretty quickly and it’s not as hard as having them, say, 18 months apart. I think anything more than 3 years is too much for several reasons: they won’t have as many interests in common the further apart in age they are, plus if you have one in say, kindergarten and an infant, you’re always in the car dragging the baby around.
Okay, I hope that made some kind of sense. lol
Post # 8
Mine are 2 1/2 years apart and I think it has worked out perfectly. The older child’s birthday is in the fall, and the younger’s is in the spring, so they are only two grades apart in school.
They were far enough apart that my oldest was potty trained and onto “big boy” things when his sister was born, but now that they are older, they go to the same school and know the same people.
Post # 9
My daughter will be 8 by the time this current baby is born in August. Thats a big gap, but sometimes life gets int he way and you make plans and they don’t work out the way you think they will. She is super excited about her little sister.
Post # 10
I would say 2-3 years is perfect. anything less than 2 years can be tough on parents and the kids too close in age. Anything more than 3 years gets to be an awkward gap. My brother and I were 4 years apart and it was always hard to find common things to do together.
Post # 11
Not pregnant or have children yet. But we’re hoping for 2-3 years, closer to 2 than 3. We also want to adopt/foster so that’ll play into it as well. We want to immediately start the process of adopting another baby/toddler (perferrably) right after giving birth to our first child so that when we are able to adopt, it’ll be within a 12-18 month period (hopefully). We’ll see–it depends on where our location is and what sort of resources we have but that’s my goal at least. 🙂
Post # 12
My brother and I are 5 1/2 years apart (my father had cancer in between us). While I know this could not have been avoided, my parents definitely wanted more kids in between there. I love my brother and we’re very close, but I still wish we were closer in age so we could do more things together and have more interests in common. We do hang out as much as possible (he’s still in 10th grade), but I hope to not have that big of a gap between our children. But hey, life throws you curves right??? They said my brother would be mentally disabled and he’s 100% healthy – so I really have zero room to “complain.”
Post # 13
We’re still deciding whether we’re done or whether we’ll adopt. We’d like no more than a 3 year gap if we do adopt… but sometimes you have to wait that long. It’s all very confusing and I’m trying to just take each thing as it comes!