(Closed) Bees with long last names… Question!

posted 6 years ago in Names
Post # 4
11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I had the same issue when I was thinking about hyphenating. My last name would’ve been 16 characters as well and it did seem too long to me. I ended up dropping my middle name and making my maiden name my middle name. So now I can use both when I want to, but for forms and whatnot I just use my married name. 

Post # 5
1736 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Beckster329:  My last name is ten letters and FI’s is 6 letters. Rather than hyphenating and making it ridiculously hard on myself, I am going to legally change my middle name to my maiden name. That way I can use the initial when I want (which is conveniently the same middle initial I’ve always had) or use the full name in a professional setting so my co-workers aren’t confused as to my identity! 🙂

Post # 7
3471 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

I’m looking at 18 letters, and a long first and middle name too– a whopping total of 35 letters. But I just can’t give up my name– it means too much to me. 

Post # 8
949 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I have a 14 letter last name (hyphenated, parents’ names) and it’s not a problem on forms. Sometimes I get filed under the second partof it, which is annoying, but other than that, no real issues.

Post # 9
85 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

My last name alone is 16 letters, it never fit in the scantron form for tests and such at school, but I’ve never really had any trouble as far as nothavering the full name on the test/paperwork.m

Post # 10
5093 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

My maiden name was ten letters long, and it was always a pain.  I have large handwriting, so I could never fit it onto the name lines at school and such.

When I was little, I remember asking my mom why my last name wasn’t a hyphenated version of her maiden name and my dad’s last name.  She explained, “Because your name is long enough as is.  If we hyphenated, your last name would be Turner-Chwialkowski.*  Then, with your luck, you’d end up marrying another Polish guy who also had a hyphenated last name, something like Weckiewicz-Karwoski.  Then your children would end up being Susie and Bobby Turner-Chwialkowski-Weckiewicz-Karwoski, and I refuse to do that to my future grandchildren.”  Really, those are words to live by.

*Last names changed.

Post # 11
168 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Beckster329:  You should also check if you actually can drop your middle name. I know in NJ and NY you cannot replace your middle name with your maiden name without filing a formal name change and appearing before a judge. A few other states have similar rules.

I am not 100% sure because while I have a hyphenated last name it is my father’s, not my parents combined – but I think if you hyphenate e.g. Mary Smith-Jones you can use Mrs Jones or Ms Smith as you wish. Married names for women fall under “common usage” so whatever combination of legal names you have are your right to use as you wish. Only on your drivers license/passport/SS card would you have to have the full long hyphenated version. If anyone can confirm that would be helpful as I’m wondering that for myself too.

Post # 13
161 posts
Blushing bee

My entire name, including my middle name, is an entire alphabet. My last name makes up 12 of that…If I were to hyphenate, it would be 19 letters long–that would make my new grand total 34 characters (including the hyphen). I have hated filling out forms and any kind of paperwork my whole like thanks to my lovely German last name (scantrons were the worst!). I think it’s time I give myself a break. But honestly, if keeping your last name and hypenating with your husband’s is important to you, I say do it. After a while it’s just one of those things that’s annoying, but you’re so used to it that you get past it. 🙂 Good luck with whichever decision you make!

Post # 14
168 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

In a long last name related problem…I just called NJ Motor Vehicle Commission and they said there are only 10 letters allocated to the last name on a drivers license! So I would have to either take FI’s name or keep my own. I am absolutely baffled but knowing NJ I’m sure other states are more reasonable. 

Post # 15
4150 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Mine would be 18 with the hyphen, so I decided not to hyphenate.  It’s just too much.  We travel a lot, and I can just imagine the nightmares at the airport trying to fill out travel docs.

Post # 16
6248 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

My maiden name is long.  The only time it’s a pain is when you have to fill out repetitive written forms or sign a lot of things.  But I’m definitely not hyphenating — it’s long enough as it it.

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