- 3 years ago
- Wedding: July 2016
I am getting really frustrated with my fiance’s family’s attitude toward my engagement ring. We’re in college, so when his parents asked him how he could afford a diamond, he explained that it was a white sapphire. With its clarity, they would have thought he spent thousands of dollars if we let them believe it was a diamond, and that would have really upset them. Besides, we aren’t going to lie to anyone who asks what the stone is. We chose a sapphire because we could get more bang for our buck, mine is ethically mined, and a true natural white sapphire is incredibly rare, rarer than any diamond. It wasn’t cheap, either, but I didn’t want to put us into debt over a glorified rock.
For some reason, fiance’s family seems to feel like it’s not a “real” engagement ring. They act like they pity me or something for not having a “real” ring. His brother has made comments and his parents have made comments about how they would rather have a diamond. Today, his grandmother offered to buy him a diamond, presumably to set in my ring or for a new ring. I am not sure how she even knows my ring is a white sapphire, since she has never seen it in person (and even if she had, she would not be able to tell the difference) so I am assuming his mother told her it’s not a diamond.
I’m not upset that anyone knows what the stone in my ring is or isn’t, but I’m a little upset that fiance’s family feels the need to “gossip” about it amongst themselves. Fiance called me and asked if I wanted a diamond after his grandmother’s offer, and sounded sad, like he was second-guessing our choice. It seriously ticks me off. I love my ring, I think it is the most beautiful thing I own, and I’m mad that his family is treating it like it’s not valid or something.
I think it’s really petty. Who has enough time on their hands to care what my stone is? And why do people assume that I’m unahppy with a white sapphire? I adore it, and I will never, ever “upgrade”, not next year, not in ten or twenty years.
Even if it was plastic, it would still be special because my fiance put it on my hand when he asked me to marry him.
So WTF is wrong with people?
Do you bees have any experiences with people being rude about your ring? Can any other bees with non-diamond e-rings share similar stories to make me feel less alone in this? What do you say to people to bring them to heel on this one?