Bees without Dads – how do you cope with Father's Day?

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I go visit my dad at the cemetery. 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@JLR1982:  same here.

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

Well I had a not so great father, then he died a few years ago and I haven’t had to do anything for Father’s Day since (which I’m really happy about).  I think the reason you’re hurt stems more from the fact that you don’t feel included, which I think is really strange (the not including you part, not you being hurt).  His family should see that they are adding two daughters, not losing two sons.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I go to the cemetary for my dad, but then I celebrate with my stepdad. He’s been around since I was around 10 and I really do love him and I’ve always appreciated the fact that he stepped in to raise my brother and I when he already had two grown kids. I just try to let him know I’m thankful for that and for the relationship we have. 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

I don’t do anything. Thinking of taking my mom out though, since she had to be both parents maybe she deserves an extra holiday.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee

@JLR1982:  +1

I’m coming up on my second Father’s Day w/o him, and I’m still not sure how to cope properly. :/

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

We do a second mothers day, since my mom was both mom and dad. 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

My dad passed away when I was 11. I don’t do anything for Father’s day. I sort of ignore that it’s happening.

 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

My dad never raised me because my mom moved to this country to leave him and his cheating/sleazy/deadbeat/criminal ways behind and start a new life. Even though I have serious daddy issues, I’ve been blessed with strong father figures: my grandpa who passed away a few years ago, and my uncle, whom I call “Dad.”

I don’t even think about my biological father anymore, but it’s easy for me because I never knew him. I just get presents for my uncle and that’s that.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@Baimee:  When I was little I used to make Happy Father’s Day cards for my mom (single mom), but I stopped when I was a little older when I accidentally saw my mom crying over it. Now I just give her gag gifts here and there like a small set of tools, a car emergency kit, typical Dad gifts. She loves them 🙂

Post # 16
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Busy bee

I just ignore it. Well, I reminded my husband to send his dad a card, but otherwise it passes unremarked upon.

I mean, it still stings a little, but it’s just another day when there’s no one worth acknowledging in that particular way.

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