Bees w/out dad how to decide who walk you down the aisle

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
9204 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2018

I think what you’re suggesting is a good idea. But you are not stumper close with your stepfather, so your mother shouldn’t expect him to walk you down the aisle. Do you have another male relative who you are close with? My mum lost her dad just a few days before she turned 20. She had her brother walk her down the aisle, it was really nice to see the video.

Post # 4
610 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014 - Brazil Room

You can have whoever you want walk you down really. It seems pretty obvious that having your sisters walk you down has more sentiment than having your stepdad do it.

Post # 5
640 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Why not walk down by yourself?

My friend had her brother walk her down the aisle and had her first dance with her mom. It was the sweetest thing I’ve ever seen.

Post # 6
374 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I agree that having your mom or sisters or someone else very close to you would be better, and if you do mother-son and father-daughter dances, maybe dance with the stepdad then? But also maybe realize that you mother may have always pictured herself watching you walk in and down the aisle and doesn’t want to miss out on that by walking with you.

My dad is still alive, but as he’s older I’ve thought about what I’d do if he passed away before I got married. Both of my grandfathers died before I was born, and my next door neighbor who was like a grandfather to me passed away a couple years ago. I’m not close at all to my mom’s brother and my dad doesn’t have any brothers (and neither do I, just one sister). But I’m really close to my sister’s husband, I was in grad school classes with him while they were dating and engaged and I got to know him as a person and not just as my sister’s husband. If my dad for some reason wasn’t able to make it to my wedding, I would ask my brother-in-law to walk me down the aisle. As it is, I’ve asked him to escort my mom in, both so that he’s part of the family and not sitting up front waiting for all of us to come in (my sister’s a bridesmaid so she’ll be in the back waiting to walk in), but also so that he can be with us till the last minute and help wrangle their daughter, our flower girl, who will be just under two 🙂

Post # 7
752 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Go with your sisters! I would be so touched if I saw that, having lost my dad as well. If I were at your wedding I’d be sobbing uncontrollably LOL

Post # 8
173 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I am going to walk down the aisle by myself but will be doing the dance with my step-dad maybe you could do that??

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