- 7 years ago
- Wedding: November 2011
long story short, i have 7 bridesmaids and 2 are nothing but problems. I moved to tx after highschool for college and met my FI there, he is actually from canada. We are planning our DW in texas since we have mutial friends there and i lived there for 7 yrs. Our families have not met so we are doing a 10 day vacay and getting to know each other around the wedding.
When i got engaged, i sent these 2 bridesmaid personalized cards to ask them to be BM. I decided to move back to my hometown while planning the wedding to save money. I have been here since Jan 2010 and things have been horrible with them. They dont ask about the wedding, they dont care about me, they dont ask or care about FI. Weve been friends since 2000. They have said several things to me that really hurt including :
” we are only obligated to come to your wedding and rehersal”
i am having all the girls together for girls night before the wedding with wine mani and pedis, they told me it was stupid and shouldnt be drinking the night before the wedding.
We are having a small wedding 40 guest, 10 in the wedding party, we decided not to introduce the wedding party at the recetption just the bride and groom, BM told me why am i even having a wedding party when im not announcing them and they are getting no recognition . I thought it was about standing next to your best but i guess they need recognition.
i met them a month ago to try on dresses, FI was in ireland visting his sick dad who that dad found out his cancer came back, it was already 5 oclock and i siad i needed to get home to skype him( t5 hr time difference) because he just found of this devasting news and they gave me attitude that i had to leave before dinner.
they talk about me all the time, and have something negative to say about all aspects of the wedding but havent asked about anything. They dont even know what the venue is like or what is going on, i know the expensives of a DW so i have told them to just wear any black shoes and just buy the dresses, my granma is throwing the shower and asked for no money, i dont expect much. i more so want them to be friends. FI and i see each other every 2 months this past year and half and not once have they called and said are you ok? i usually spend 3 weeks crying after he leaves and its been the harderest time . My mom and FI are hurt that i am always upset during this happy time and that i should let them go, I just dont understand why they arent happy for me or care, they post immature status on FB and make things worse. as of right now they are not in the wedding because i cant let this continue to hurt me the week of the wedding, especially when FI and I are moving to Japan for a job after the wedding, this is a very special time with my family and his . im so hurt, why dont they care? they havent even asked about my huge move and how things are and what are we doing there or anything. We re basically not friends .
i see so many post about how wedding change friends and maybe its cause we re young (23) Am i wrong here bees?