Post # 1
I would love for FI and I to set our wedding date this week, so that we can (after 11 months of engagement) finally tell people when we’re getting married! We have decided on December 2013 although we are having a hard time deciding whether to set our date before Christmas, or after. We will be getting married in the Catholic Church (I’m not sure how they are about letting couples marry around Advent). FI and I live in Wyoming, as do his parents (my parents will hopefully be out here soon!). Aside from FIs parents, literally all of our family will be traveling in from the East Coast. SO we want a time that is mindful of holiday plans, but also a convenient time for guests who may have time off around the holiday.
What are some suggestions? One of my BMs said she knows a lot of people already take off the week between Christmas and New Years, so that may be a good plan, although, people may be less stressed before Christmas? We had also toyed with the idea of a NYE wedding. What do you ladies think?
Post # 3
were you planing on the normal saturday wedding?? 21st or 28 will be saturdays after christmas and i would do the 28th just cause the craziness from the holidays would be slightly decreased and the food comas would be subsided i think having it on the 21st would be really crazy. i know in m family–both inlaws and regular family a MAJORITY would still be out shopping, getting drunk or having christmas parties with work, friends or long distance family..
Post # 4
Have you considered Martin Luther King Jr Day weekend? That is usually the 3rd Monday in January, so it is just a few weeks after your December target, but it tends to be a very quiet time of the year for airlines, hotels and wedding vendors. Your guests and you would all get to enjoy a little down time after the holidays, and anyone who needs to travel would get lower airfares than going closer to christmas/new years. Plus many (not all) 9-to-5’ers get a three-day weekend which makes it a lot easier to travel. You will probably find good deals on venues since you’re not competing with holiday parties.
Apart from that, I’d pick before Christmas, not after. Even though folks often have the week between christmas and new years off, or can add a leave day or two to what they are getting as a holiday, the airfares and hotels are insane that week.
Post # 5
We had our wedding the week before Xmas. It worked out for a lot of our out of town family members because they could just stay the week and celebrate Xmas here. We did send STDs 6 months out and had people tell us they were reworking their holiday travels so they could attend. So we were glad we sent STDs out.
Post # 6
I don’t celebrate Christmas myself, but I would imagine that all are deeply into planning for the holiday (gift buying and decorating the house, and bakin and cooking) so I voted after, when the stress of it all is over.
Post # 7
after. Things are so hectic right up until Christmas Eve – if I had to fit in attending a wedding I might lose my mind.
Post # 8
I second MLK day. Getting married within a few weeks of Christmas is pretty harsh on your guests. People do often have time off around the holidays but usually because they already have plans. Plus, a lot of people (myself included) really look forward to the holidays all year as a time to relax and hang with family. I would be kind of cranky about having to fly to a wedding during my time off then (and unless you were like… my sister? I just wouldn’t, probably). Plus the cost of travel around the holidays is INSANE. like 2-3 times the normal cost. I definitely think pushing it back to January would be better for EVERYONE.
Post # 9
This is probably going to depend on each individual. I would make a list of all the people you want to invite and split the list between the people who are most important for you that they make it and have to travel and the people who if they missed your wedding, you’d be sad, but not distraught. Then, just casually ask around what is more convenient for those people who it’s very important for you for them to make it. And I really mean for you to limit this list. I’m talking about immediately family members, or family members that are like brothers/sisters b/c you guys grew up with them, and the best man or maybe the entire bridal party (depending how big yours is). Other than teachers, I don’t know anyone who actually gets the week between Christmas and NYE off. Most people might take it off, but that might be because they have annual standing plans for that week. If they know your wedding is coming up, they’ll change it. I would also take into consideration the cost of flights and hotels around that time, the possibility of snow and delays, etc. Usually the time right before Xmas is pretty hectic, what with prepping for the holidays and all – I know I can’t take that time off from work, it’s a really busy time for us. So, it just really depends on the individual. A PP suggested MLK Jr., but if you don’t want to wait til 2014, what about Columbus Day in October? I’m not sure if December is special to you guys and that’s why you want to do it then, but I anticipate difficulties. Good luck!