(Closed) Before getting engaged, how often did you talk about Marriage?

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

We didn’t really talk about it much before becoming engaged.  Then again, I proposed only three days after we first could get legally married anywhere, given that we are a same-sex couple.  I was quite nervous about it, just because we hadn’t really discussed it before.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

We talked about it quite a bit, we never looked for rings or anything he used his moms (which i lostCry)

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

We talked about it a little, but never a whole lot or in great detail. We just sort of decided that we wanted to get married.

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

We were dating for more than 5 years when he proposed. I would say wedding talk started happening around the 3 year mark since I consider myself to have been “waiting” for 2 years. We discussed dates, wedding party, types of wedding (destination or at home) and venue prior to being officially engaged. From day one we knew that we would be married some day so while some people thought it was weird that we discussed the wedding long before getting engaged, we didn’t really see it that way.

As for the conversation cues, I can’t really answer that since we shopped for the ring together for a good year before getting engaged. We found and bought my ring together so I knew it was coming, just wasn’t sure of when. He only made me suffer for about a month after picking it up. 

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Oh Lord, we talked about it ALL THE TIME.  The FI and I have been together for over four years now, and I am the Queen Mother of all planners (in every aspect of my life– one of my New Year’s resolutions is actually to plan less!), so it’s hard for  me to remember a time when we didn’t talk about being married.  There’s the trick, though–we talked about our actual marriage much more than we talked about the wedding.

I think that it’s probably a strong sign that he doesn’t seem uncomfortable talking about it.  That in itself shows that it is on his mind as well as yours. 

When I think back to the time immediately preceeding the proposal, I suppose the biggest flag (and the thing that BY FAR pissed me off the most, because it made me so antsy!) was that Mr. BrassBand would talk about things that we would do/that would change/etc not when we got married, but when we got engaged.  It drove me absolutely bonkers, because I wanted to be engaged SO BAD.  The other thing that I noticed is that he would bring up the subject both of engagement and of “When we’re married…” much more often than he had previously.  He became the big instigator…I think it was him letting off some of the excitement of proposal-secret-keeping without actually blowing the secret.  ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@RenoRose: it has been 2 years no new ring (yet). we talked about quite a bit of things like where we wanted to get married, colors, who we wanted in it, we talked about when but we had no idea and just other random wedding details, we mostly talked about our future as in, where we would like to live what pets we wanted, how many children names of children even LOL but then again I gave birth to our daughter 2 days before he proposed.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

We started talking marriage back in January of 2009 and he didn’t propose until September!  We discussed big things like where we would live (we are from different countries originally), babies, beliefs, etc.  We also talked about lighter subjects like the wedding itself – ie what do you think of this song as a first dance song?  That was probably our biggest thing, sharing songs that we’d like to hear at our wedding.  lol  

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

We never really talked about marriage specifically (like when we would get engaged) but we talked about our future and things we wanted and where we would live (so marriage was was in there just not always brought up specifically) – although he did bring it up occassionally.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

We talked about it quite bit. But I had kind of backed off in the last two months. We didn’t talk about it unless he brought it up.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee

Umm see the conversation we had yesterday…

I’m very nervous for the actual wedding…

As we move closer and closer to the engagement it has blown the top off of wedding talk. He is really into it and likes to give me his input. He knows I’ve done a lot of research and that we are basically hinging on the ring. We aren’t waiting for anything else. I have a feeling we may be the people who book something before we actually get engaged.

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