Post # 1
We rent our house from DH’s parents so they are essentially our landlords. Whenever something goes wrong with the house his mother insists on finding the contractor herself. We need some serious roof work done so she talked to DH and set it up for a guy to come this week to make the repairs.
The problem is, my DH is out of town on business this week. Normally this wouldn’t be an issue but apparently this guy lives 90 minutes away and needs to STAY HERE for the 3-4 days he will be working on the roof. Say what?!?!
So, DH tells the guy he can stay in our garage (it is pretty much a mini apartment). Oh, and he didn’t even bother to tell me all of this!
I find out from DH’s mom today that this dude is supposed to be staying with us. I freaked out. Why would my husband allow some strange man that we have NEVER met stay in the garage outside of our house when the man knows DH is on the other side of the country? This man, who we know NOTHING about, is going to know I am home alone when I enter and leave my house and I am supposed to be ok with that?
I called my husband and freaked the F out on him. I can’t believe he would make a decision that would compromise my safety without even telling me about it. He said he forgot to tell me and he didn’t think it would be a safety issue because his parents vouched for the guy and he wouldn’t be in the actual house with me.
I then called his mother and asked her to postpone and she got really shitty with me. If she wants the work done this week then why doesn’t SHE house this guy?
Am I being irrational? Would you all be ok with this?
Post # 3
I could TOTALLY see my SO doing this to me, and I would have your exact same reaction. You aren’t overreacting. This was waaaaaay out of line.
Post # 4
What? My DH would never let some rando stay in the house while I was there alone. There is no way I would be remotely ok with this.
Post # 5
ummm…. yeah wouldnt happen in a lifetime with me. and i agree that if MIL is okay with him then she should house him! yeah thats a huge safety thing for me!! no way no how!!!
Post # 6
Wow! I would kill him too! Guys sometimes just don’t think and you should not be left alone with some strange man living in your house.
Post # 7
Yikes, definitely don’t think you’re being irrational! I would be very uncomfortable if a random guy was staying at my place while DH was gone.
I don’t think you did anything wrong. Would it be possible for you to get a friend to stay with you for those few days when he is working on the roof?
Post # 8
Whoa! My DH would never pull such a thing, because as far as he’s concerned, just about everyone in the world is out to harm everyone else. There is a loaded shotgun next to our bed, and I get in trouble if I don’t double-bolt the front door.
You definitely are right to be concerned about this!!!! His mom ‘vouching’ for the guy won’t do you much good afterwards if something happens.
Post # 9
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Holey moley! Not okay, at all!! At this point, since you really need the work done, is there any way you can stay with your in-laws for those few days? I would be totally creeped out by having a stranger (especially a man) within my living quarters, even with my husband there. Without him home, this would not be an option. No way!
Post # 10
There would be death.
Also i was going to ask why MIL isn’t putting him up.
Post # 11
What? that’s insane for your DH to think that’s ok. there is no way I would have some random guy stay essentially in my house while he knows I’m home alone. That’s just asking for trouble.
Post # 12
Yeah, I wouldn’t be cool with this either.
Post # 13
Call the company he works for, and see if you can arrange some business expense paid lodging for him. Tell them you don’t feel comfortable with this and will take your business elsewhere if they aren’t accomodating to your needs.
Post # 14
Um…that would not fly with me. My husband would actually not want some total stranger staying in our house, especially when he is away. I would insist the man get a hotel room.
Post # 15
Kill him… and then your MIL.
Post # 16
I would be pissed too! It was pretty thoughtless of both of them, but it could work, don’t worry too much. Do you have siblings (big burly older brothers, preferrably), or friends nearby that can have a “sleepover” at your house while the guy is there? Keep the garage door and the side door locked with the deadbolt at all times!! He doesn’t need access indoors, does he?
EDIT: I like the idea of asking his company to pay for his lodging elsewhere. Much more convenient idea!