(Closed) Before the Wedding Party Question

posted 7 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
514 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I normally wouldn’t invite anyone to anything wedding related if they aren’t invited to the wedding but I suppose going out for a girls night with some friends before you get married if phrased like that is ok. Maybe instead of them being invited to your bach party, your Maid/Matron of Honor can say to the other girls she wants to put together a girls night before you get married and if they don’t already know, she can spread the word that it’s a small family wedding.

Post # 4
860 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@His_Swallow: Just let you friends know about your wedding and how it’s family only.  No one will care.  It’s your choice for your wedding.  Everyone loves a bachelorette party.  i wouldn’t worry so much about it!

Post # 5
4137 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

pp’s are right about the bachelorette party – just call it a girls night out.

as for the engagement party, i would hold off and throw a party after the wedding instead. that way you can invite anyone you want to celebrate with you, not just people at the wedding.


Post # 6
5273 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

You can totally have an engagement party! All your friends will understand that you are having a small family only wedding (its not like your inviting half your friends and leaving half out.)

On your engagment party invitations, you can just indicate something like “no need for gifts, your presence is your gift” just in case you are worried about ppl bringing gifts, when they arn’t invited to your wedding.

Post # 7
325 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I agree with previous posters… I think the bachelorette party is fine. Call it a girls night out, or “Last fling before the ring” or something like that. And have your Maid/Matron of Honor spread the word that although you are having a small, family-only wedding, she would like to get together with all of your friends to celebrate.

As for the engagement party, I think that is a little trickier. If it is very informal, like everyone getting together at a bar to celebrate, I think that is fine. But if you are sending out actual invites, I’m not sure I would do that. You are telling people you like them enough to celebrate the engagement with them, but not the wedding. (I totally understand you might just WANT a small wedding, but it can be tough.) And some people do assume that they need to bring gifts to an engagement party, too.

I think the previous idea of throwing a little bash when you are married would be a great idea. Maybe a “welcome home” from the honeymoon thing!

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