Before TTC

posted 3 years ago in Babies
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@sherryberry:  My DH was super reluctant to discuss many things kid related before we actually started TTC. The only time we talked kids pre ttc was deciding on when we wanted to start TTC & how far in advance i would go off the pill. Or in an abstract sense when we would see another kid acting out, something like “oh our future children will never be allowed to act that way, or if i were the parent i would have handled that situation differently.”

You might want to cover more abstract concepts like “how long will we ttc before seeing a doctor, if we have trouble TTC how much are we willing to spend on medical intervention, what if one of you can’t have kids will the other be okay with a non bio child? or is adoption an option or a surrogate?” – other things that are important to cover are things like religion, will one of you be a stay at home parent, how many kids do you want to have. 

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@sherryberry:  Have you decided if you are going to chart/track your cycles when you TTC (like basal body temp, tracking mucus, etc?), use ovulation predictor tests or just go with the “we have sex all of the time approach”? I read Taking Charge of your Fertility before TTC and started tracking my BBT and using OPK’s. Some partners think that’s putting “too much work into it” and that you should just have sex all of the time (thats what my sister said to me) =) I told DH not to expect a BFP our first month trying (in fact we had a ‘practice’ run the month before our actual date we wanted to TTC) and got our BFP. Also, is your DH willing to put off “game night” for some time between the sheets if its your fertile window 😉 

We honestly didn’t discuss the fertility issue (I just threw that in there because I’ve read threads where couples are having issues concieving and now are divided on what to do), i just assumed i’d be able to get pregnant and we were lucky that it happened quickly for us. I think like most things its important to communicate & check in with eachother once in a while to make sure you are still on the same page. It def didn’t hit my DH that i was pregnant until he saw the baby on the u/s, then it got more real when he told his parents and then again when he started feeling her move. Now he talks to my belly at night & in the mornings and will snuggle up with me and put his hand on my belly so he can feel her wiggle around. Tonight we were folding laundry and he came across some of her socks and just smiled real big at me. He was like “really, they’re this small” and then proceeded to put her tiny tiny baby socks on his fingers and take a picture of it. It was wicked cute!

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