Post # 1
I went out of my way to make sure my sister was sat with people that she knows (our cousins) during my wedding reception, she on the other hand has choosen to put me with her friends. (After asking my preference and I said our cousins). We have nothing in common, and i only know them from her graduation parties and other small events. I do not like to dance and i KNOW they will drag me out, and rag on me. And my DH doesn’t know them AT ALL.
Yes, it’s her wedding. Yes, we can switch seats and all that (what if we can’t?)
I’m a people pleaser – She is not. There-in lies my problem.
Le Sigh… this is going to be a long reception /end rant
Just needed to write that out… i feel a little better….
Post # 3
It may not have been intentional. Maybe she had a hard time fitting things together for the seating chart? Those things can be brutal. I would think you should sit with your parents and other immediate family though.
Post # 4
@FreckledFox: That stinks, but maybe she wa having a hard time putting anyone else at that table and it made it les awkward for everyone to put you at that table than a completely random person. I would try to let it go and not take it personally. After the meal you will be up dancing anyway!
Post # 5
I agree that it sucks, but maybe she was having a really hard time with her seating chart. I make a new seating chart each month for my fifth graders, and it’s the f’ing puzzle with no solution lol. A can’t sit near B. C’s parents hate B’s parents. D needs to sit up front… BLAH. When I started our wedding seating chart, I realized it was the same shit. Who knows each other, who isn’t talking, who had an awkward breakup… :- I’m not finished, but my goal right now is that everyone be sitting with at least ONE person they know well and like. I try to make it more than one, but sometimes there’s nothing you can do. Just assume that she did her best and be happy you’re sitting with your husband :o)
Post # 6
@FreckledFox: you’re only at your seat for dinner. It’s just a few hours- really probably only 1 hour that you need to be in your seat. Don’t worry about switching. you will survive.
Post # 7
Hey, I totally get how you’re feeling. My guests’ comfort is a HUGE priority at your wedding. Not everyone is as sensitive, though. I think you’re just going to have to take this in stride and let her have her day. It may be that your sister was having trouble with the seating chart, and felt she could count on you to be a good host to her friends.
In the grand scheme of things, this is pretty small. Dinner won’t last long, and as soon as the dancing starts, there’ll be empty seats, so you can move tables. Don’t let this drive a wedge between you and your sister.
Post # 8
Seating arrangements are tough (as you know). I haven’t always been happy with mine at weddings. But… we just have to suck it up. 🙂 When they all start dancing, you can get up and go over to your cousins’ table.
Post # 9
at first i thought she didnt even seat me with my DH, but he’s convinced it’ll be fine. 😉 sigh! i thoguht he’d have an issue with it! we plan to move around as soon as other seats open up!
Post # 10
Are you the only one out of the cousin who knows the friends? If you were sitting at the cousins table then who from the cousins table would have to sit at the friends table?
At least you know the friends, I imagine your cousins don’t know the friends at all so that is why you were chosen.
Post # 11
@FauxBoho: i guess I am the only one who knows the cousins and friends, but at this point she isnt really considering anything aside from wanting all the Bridesmaids together… She had said friends originally, but now it’s like two head tables sort of! bridesmaids and SOs, then Groomsmen and SO. my brother knows NONE of the grooms friends and he’s a groomsmen, so i feel worse for him…