(Closed) Beginning of the Holiday Homesick Blues

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
9626 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

((HUGS)) You’re not insane!  I can sssoooo relate to you.  I also love cooking and the more recipes to slog through the better.  The Thanksgiving holiday meal is my favorite one to prepare.  And, of course, a large part of the joy comes from the anticipation of sharing our culinary gifts.

I’ve been there, in the past.  It seems as though holiday loneliness and home-sickness is the worst there is.  And the presence of present loved ones makes longing for the nostalgic past even more bittersweet. 

Part of growing up is accepting the inevitable changes in life that time brings.  Holidays evoke some of our deepest and most cherished memories and we try, desperately sometimes, to recreate the feeling in our current lives. 

What works for me each year is to create my own, new traditions.  This year will be our first married holiday season together and for that I’m thankful.  Certain traditions we’ll carry on from both of our pasts and certain traditions we’ll create newly on our own.  A tradition has to start somewhere!  The family members we have who can be with us just add to the joy.

I know you don’t want to hear to make the best of the situation you’re in, but that’s just what you must do.  Carry on with your meal planning and prepare a feast for you and your Fiance to appreciate and enjoy.  And if you have leftovers, well, they’re the best part about Thanksgiving anyway. 

You have the right attitude in being thankful for what you have and the longing to share your abundance with others. 

Possibly the two of you could find a lonely friend to invite?  Or what about volunteering somewhere to help feed the homeless at a church or shelter?  And I’ve heard nursing homes have patients who never get visitors, maybe you could contact someone and make a new elderly friend.  Your generosity could really brighten someone’s day!  🙂

Post # 4
5966 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

The holidays amplify whatever we carry within us to the point of blinding awareness, THAT is a fact….so if you are happy, content and filled with gratitude, that’s going to be compounded and exhibited to a point that someone will consider writing a Hallmark Holiday Movie about you…if you feel sad, homesick and generally disinfranchised by the entire thing that will also be synthesized to the point that someone will consider writing a Lifetime Holiday Movie about you.

Either way, I’m not telling you anything you don’t already know, you are drowning in this crap and here I am describing the water to you.

Traditions are wonderful, fullfilling and marvelous things, but if we all did the SAME thing every time, there wouldn’t be any new ones, would there?

So the in-laws are flying in red eye, which blows my mind that anyone would subject themselves to this willingly, but whatever!  Go pick them up, with thermoses of egg nog and peppermint cocoa, complimented by fleecy blankies and cookies.  Next morning, bust out your best pan, rock their flight addeled minds with some mega-happy flap-jacks (pancakes with chocolate chips) and settle in for a day of silly movies, fun games and relaxation….instead of the traditional turkey, why not take a tangent on the foul course and do duck, goose or cornish game hens instead?  Frankly, any of those is a far more sophisticated choice, but gives a traditional meal feeling, you can dress those up with some rosemary sage stuffing and braised peach compote…you said you love to cook, so cook!

This is doable, and could turn into something you love to do for years, Un-Thanksgiving.

Either way, I hope you find your inner holiday!


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