- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
Fiance and I are fairly simple people. At the moment we don’t have much of a social life, as we don’t particularly care for most of the people we’ve encountered in our area, just recently both became unemployed, and have decided we’re miserable enough here that we’re going to move back east (closer to his family) before this new year is out.
A little background on my family… eh, I could probably go on Jerry Springer if I told him a few stories. There wouldn’t be much punching, but there would be a hell of a lot of very strange drama, and several, “Why the hell would you DO that?!” type conversations. The only relative I currently keep in touch with is my mom, and she and I are both careful of the fact that we’re so much alike, we can’t stay in the same house for more than a week without driving each other nuts.
Fiance had a fairly normal family life. Keeps in touch with just about everyone, relatively regularly. Not much drama there… except for that cousin of his that just went completely psycho, but doesn’t everybody have one of those cousins? Anyway…
We’ve been together for a long time. Many years. When we finally got engaged, nobody really made a big deal about it. Not that they have to, but you know, you kind of expect a card or two, an “OMG CONGRATS!!” hug or something. I got a text from a now-former friend (completely different story there) that simply said, “PIC OF THE RING” and that was it. A few of my very close friends occasionally ask about dates and such, but other than that, nothing. Pardon my language, but it seems that nobody really gives a rat’s ass that we’re engaged.
I’ve gathered a few wedding accessories over our extended engagement (mostly due to financial and location issues that we haven’t actually married yet). I’ve started making my own dress with my seamstress instructor. We’ve decided that we’ll nail down a date the day after as we nail down the when/where of our move. I’ve come to terms with the fact that as much as Fiance wants to give me the rings I desire, it’s not happening anytime soon. I haggled with and made my personal decision about name-changing. But I’m just starting to really, really get that last bit… that nobody seems to care.
I’d like to have a real wedding. Even something just small. Close friends I’ve kept in touch with through the years, my mom, and whatever family Fiance wants to invite. Simple little celebration. His cousin even offered to donate her professional wedding photography services as a gift (provided we give her a date in time). Other than that, nobody’s offered anything. Again, not that they have to, but with all the stories here and elsewhere, I would have kind of expected a tiny little offering of help, even if it’s for something we don’t like or need.
Should I just finish my dress, wait for a really nice spring or summer weekend, and then we’ll just do a courthouse or a Vegas wedding?
I honestly don’t think anybody other than my mom would be miffed at missing it (though I missed all of hers because she didn’t tell me until months later). One of my best friends that I would want there is very religous and doesn’t go out at all on weekends (obvious ease-of-scheduling problem). Unless we set a date in the next month or so, we probably can’t get FI’s cousin as photographer anyway. 2011 was pretty hard on us, and we honestly have no idea where 2012 is going to lead (just hopefully somewhere back east). I don’t know how much planning we can do with no budget anyway. Unless we actually have people show up, I think the only thing I’m personally lacking that I want is a little silk bouquet, and a new pair of dress shoes for Fiance that he doesn’t complain hurt his feet.
Sorry for the rant. Just wondering if this is all really worth it at this point, if none of our nearest and dearest even seem to care. Thinking maybe we should just do it, be happily married, and not bother worrying about it any more.