(Closed) beidesmaid’s shoes should they all wear the same shoes?

posted 6 years ago in Shoes
  • poll: should i have my bridesmaids wear the same shoes?
    wear the same shoes : (8 votes)
    24 %
    diffrent but at least the same color : (25 votes)
    76 %
  • Post # 3
    34 posts
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I would love for my five bridesmaids to have the same but they are wearing long dresses & I’m happy if they wore their own for comforI.

    Post # 5
    2195 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    metallic for sure.

    My BMs all picked their own fucshia shoes and they looked great!

    Post # 6
    327 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    As someone who has had reconstructive surgery on both feet, I really appreciate the opportunity to pick my own shoes!  Everyone’s feet are different and standing up there in uncomfortable shoes does not sound fun for anyone!


    Post # 7
    487 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Personally I don’t think it matters. The last time I was a bridesmaid we were all supposed to have matching heels but because I just cannot walk in heels at all I wore flats. The bride wasn’t upset, it was no big deal.

    Post # 8
    1093 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I’d let them pick their own shoes. We ended up going with long dresses, so it ended up not really being an issue, but I have one bridesmaid who doesn’t feel dressed in anything under 4 inches, one who physically cannot wear heels because of joint problems, and three that are sort of on the fence and like heels but not real high ones.  So even when we were going with short dresses, which was my original plan, I was going to give them a color (probably silver) and let them pick whatever shoes they felt comfortable in.

    Honestly, no one will notice their shoes except you, unless one of them picks a really outrageous pair (I did have to ask my one bridesmaid to make sure she went with something somewhat understated- I’m thinking silver pumps, not silver pumps with spikes glitter and mirrors, which is more her style).  I’ve never once been to a wedding where I noticed what the bridesmaids had on their feet.

    Post # 9
    345 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    When I was Bridesmaid or Best Man for my best friend, we attempted matching shoes but my feet are small and wide, so anything that fit them were too tight on me, and also they were much taller, so they went for a small heel and I had higher, and we just stuck to the same colour.

    I think it would be really hard to get them all in the same pair of shoes comfortably, everyone is different

    Post # 10
    209 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    It really doesnt matter if you have long dresses…

    but if you have short dresses, try just picking the style. I’ve seen some photos where BMs picked whatever, and there is always one pair of shoes that draw the eye like a sore thumb.

    So- pick all strappy sandals in the same color (regardless of heel height); peep toe pumps of same color….

    Post # 11
    11234 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I let my BMs pick their own shoes (I said that they had to be “nude” and other than that, I didn’t care). I had been suggesting these nude flats at Payless, because they were only $16 and came in regular and wide widths. My Maid/Matron of Honor ended up mentioned the gold glitter ones, so I took a look at them, said they were fine, and now everyone’s buying those lol.

    Post # 12
    1269 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I like the look when they’re all the same as long as they can all agree on the shoe, like if they all like to wear ballerinas then you can easily get all the same.

    I won’t be able to get my bm’s to match perfectly, one is a size 7-8 who can wear just about anything (arg, but I love her) another 10 who needs to be in special shoes because of nerve and muscle damage and the last wear size 13…so we’re trying for similar looking flats (they’re all taller than me and FI).

    Post # 13
    1577 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    My Maid/Matron of Honor and bridesmaid will be wearing matching shoes.

    I found great comfy 2″ heels in the exact right navy blue on sale.

    I took pictures and emailed both girls, and my Bridesmaid or Best Man met me there the next day to try them out (my Maid/Matron of Honor loves heels and said she would wear anything). Bridesmaid or Best Man found them comfy, so we bought them.

    My Maid/Matron of Honor has since picked them up and really likes them too. Both girls plan to wear them to break them in, and like me, bring flats or flipflops for late-night.

    I think it really depends on your girls.

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