Being a bitch to get what you want..

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

The squeaky wheel is the one that gets oiled. At least you got it taken care of.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I learned at a very young age that you have to be a bitch to get what you want (I handled a lot of business for my parents starting from age 5 since they didn’t speak much English).

It sucks that we have to resort to being a bitch, but it’s almost like people don’t really care about customer service/doing their job correctly unless someone makes a ruckus. 

I must have bitched out my venue maybe 5-6 times already along with writing a yelp review. I think they are terrified of me by now hehe

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think it can only get you so far. I had a lot of bitchy customers when I worked at Old Navy, and I never budged. The worse the were, the more I killed them with kindness and they still didn’t get their way.

Post # 7
Hostess
11469 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

@StephieBee:  I agree.

I also think one should try the nice road first and see where it gets you. In some situations people don’t HAVE to help you and being a bitch will only result in them planting their heels, digging in and you getting no where. It can be effective but shouldn’t be the first resort.

I had a huge issue with a Hilton hotel in San Jose a few months ago. Not only did they mess up my reservation but they were completely booked up and had nothing to offer me. I was left without a room and it was very late. My exhaustion got the better of me and I resorted to bitch mode which got me no where and fast. Finally I had to apologize and explain to them again the situation and they finally credited me the Expedia costs that they had previously refused to refund.

Post # 8
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Helper bee

I hate doing this, and in a weird way I hate when it works. Like the Dr. Phil “you teach people how to treat you” theory, every time someone gives in to me being a bitch, I sadly have that much more incentive to do it next time.

It’s difficult, stressful, puts me in a bad mood, and of course I feel terrible for the person I’m being a bitch to, even as I’m doing it. Sometimes I’ll give up and allow myself to be ripped off rather than go through all that, but I hate that too. If the stakes are high enough and rational explanation has failed, then yeah, I’m pulling up my bitch panties and wading into the fray.

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@Ninteenthchance:  Read, “Why Men Marry Bitches.” True story. Sometimes it’s the only way to get shit done.

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I think that would work for a lot of places like a phone company ect. But me being a self employed nail tech if anyone even tried to be bitchy in the littlest way they get NOTHING from me. I only am nice to clients that are nice to me. If you have a problem you better say it in the nicest way possible. Being a bitch will = you being fired as a client and sent to a shitty salon that does glue on tips and gives you an infection lol 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall

@StephieBee:  Me too, but replace Old Navy with Kohl’s. I had the power to do a lot of neat things with the little buttons on my screen. Company policy told me not to do some things, but the buttons are there, and if you’re nice to me I might press them. If you’re a bitch, I’m sorry ma’am but there’s nothing I can do Innocent

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I think there’s a difference between being assertive and being a bitch. I have no problem being assertive when necessary. Or sometimes, I express what I expect and them I’m quiet. It can make people uncomfortable and they start babbling/ giving me what I am waiting for just to fill the silence.

Post # 14
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9949 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

There is a difference between acting like a bitch and acting assertively.  It sounds as though you acted assertively, and there is nothing wrong with that.

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

I’m with you – sometimes places can be real jerks about things. I ordered a digital camera from Best Buy, it took 3 weeks to ship to me. In the meantime I found the same camera for cheaper at Sony, so when the Best Buy one finally came I went to return it… they told me “sorry, you only have 14 days”. Ummmm it arrived yesterday! I had to argue with them a little bit that I didn’t even have it in my possession at 14 days. Anyway, it sucks having to do that but it sure feels good when you win!!

Post # 16
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6407 posts
Bee Keeper

This isn’t being a bitch, it’s being firm.

Yes, I’m always firm with people when they are difficult.

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