Post # 1
So I am due 1.5-2 weeks before a wedding in which I am to be a bridesmaid. I don’t really get along with the bride, but she is marrying my brother, so I deal. Me and my husband already have one child and did not want to wait to add to our family ( he is 3 years old). I can’t remember what I was I was like 1 week postpartum, but I do remember I was sore, bleeding lots and had major engorgement. Will I be able to attend this wedding?! Would it be wise to dropout as as a bridesmaid? I don’t know how I am going to wear a very short cream dress without worrying all night about everything leaking (sorry tmi). Not to mention how do I pick a dress size?
I need help from people who have been thought this before!!! Any advice?
Post # 3
@Lilyflower: I’d personally drop out. I remember feeling like absolute shit one week post pardum and there’s no way in hell you would have caught me out of sweatpants a week after having baby. No way.
Post # 4
@Lilyflower: I would drop out also and attend the wedding as a guest if you are feeling up to it.
Post # 5
I would not be a bridesmaid and most likely not be a guest. One-two weeks is too soon. I wouldn’t even take the baby out of the house, they’ll be eating a lot, need diaper changes often, fussing, etc as you know. I’d sit this one out.
Post # 6
@Lilyflower: If you guys arent really friends and dont get along she’ll probably be RELIEVED if you step down! And you have the perfect reason. No one will bat an eye.
She did the right thing by extending the offer, you did the right thing by accepting but a little/big change happened. And Im sure you being a guest is best for you and the bride!
Post # 7
I too would drop out – its a graceful way to be selfish with your new baby time anddd get out of the wedding you’re not thrilled about as well. lol
like others said, I’d probably try to attend but no one wants a crying baby at their wedding either so maybe not… just definitely get out of that big commitment as a BM!
Post # 8
I would definitely not be a bridesmaid but since it’ll be your brother’s wedding you should at least try to get to the wedding as a guest!
Post # 9
I haven’t been through this, but I would drop out, and attend the wedding as a guest, as long as you are feeling okay.
Post # 10
@Lilyflower: I 100% recommend you politely step down! For a start, what if you go past your due date – you might be barely out of hospital. Even without that you’re still recovering, still not in shape, and have a baby to attend to. I once declined to be a BM with a 2 month old. With a 1-2 week old it’s pretty well out of the question.
Presumably it’s early in the pregnancy, so you’re giving her lots of warning and it shouldn’t be a problem.
Post # 11
I’m 7 weeks PP right now, and I can say I would 100% not have been able to be a bridesmaid, and probably wouldn’t even have made the wedding. If you spend too much time on your feet at first you’ll increase your bleeding, probably be in a lot of pain, and not have a good time.
Also, what if you go past your due date?
Post # 12
I would drop out…who’s to say you aren’t a week and a few days overdue? As far as attending at all that would need to be a game time decision.
Post # 13
- Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI
I would also step down as a bridesmaid – like @bunnymama: mentioned too 1.5-2 weeks, you could easily go past that date and still be pregnant at the time of the wedding. So even just from the dress stand point, you would have a hard time planning. But either way I think if you do give birth right before the wedding you’re likley to want to stay home and recover with your new little one.