Being a Bridesmaid after a Bride

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Wow, I am in the same exact boat. Never ever been a bridesmaid. Getting married in June and my BFF is getting married in September so I as well will be a bridesmaid after a bride. Talk about an expensive year ahead 🙂

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I was a BM before I got married, and now I am going to be a maid of honor (not matron becuase she doesn’t like the way it sounds even though I am married, lol) at the end of the month.

I am not sure what to expect honestly. She keeps asking me for advice, so it is fun to relive my wedding all the time, but it is also crazy at times because I have “been there, done that” and I remember how stressful it was so I don’t really want to try to plan someone else’s wedding.

Just my 2 cents.

Post # 6
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1068 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

We’re the first wedding in our group, so I’ll definitely be a bride before a bridesmaid.

Post # 7
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542 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@luluvohn:  Same! I’m like what is acceptable and what is not? How much am I supposed to expect them to spend on bridesmaids gowns? What type of gifts do I get them? I have no clue about any of this stuff!

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

@luluvohn:  I have a friend that got married in April and me in July.  We were in each other’s weddings and it wasn’t weird or a conflict at all.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I havent been asked to be a BM yet but when one of my BMs gets married I know I am going to be in their wedding. ALL of my girls had never been a BM before either so we did everything together.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

 

I have my MOH that way – she was married, then served in my bridal party. 

She was the best ever because – 

(1) When I needed help and asked for advice, she gave honest advice alogn with tips – without ever shutting my ideas down. She said “I learned” but didn’t impose her own opinion.

(2) When I was stressing everythign would be perfect, she always knew to share a funny story of somethign that went wrong – that even I didn’t notice as her bridesmaid. They were quirky, inside stories that kept me laughing. 

(3) You realize how much help a girl in a big gown can use, and she was there – non-stop. Help with my train, helped adjust my veil, made sure I got the bugs out of my netting and helped put on sunscreen.  SO MUCH LOVE <3

 

 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I’m in the same boat! Going to be a Bride in May never a bridesmaid. Not one of my friends is engaged, or even close to beingn engaged. I’m 24 now I’m pretty sure my late 20’s will be consumed of bridesmaid dresses which I am perfectly fine with. 

Post # 12
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I have never been a bridesmaid…(never been in a wedding period)…

However, my Fiance’s sister got engaged 2 months before we did, and she has made me a bridesmaid in her wedding (this Saturday, two days from now)

So I will be a bridesmaid and then just under 3 months later, I’ll be a bride myself…

It’s been a different kind of experience.. but it was fun to help her get her wedding dress ( I sold it to her! 😀 )

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I have a friend who says that she is always a bride, never a bridesmaid. Three of her seven BMs are married or are getting married and she wasn’t in any of those weddings. I’m not having a bridal party, otherwise she would have been in mine, but who knows about the other four.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I’ve been a flower girl and a junior bridesmaid in family weddings, but never a bridesmaid to somebody my own/similar age…I was the first of my friends/family in this generation to get married (at 25, not even that young) so I haven’t had a wedding TO be asked to be in. I know I’ll be MOH for my sister (who was my MOH) and my best friend (who was my BM) when their time comes, but neither is even in a relationship right now. Most of my friends are single, only a couple are even in relationships and I’m not close enough with any of those to be in the bridal party.

In fact, mine was the first wedding I had ever even attended that was for somebody under the age of 35 (I recently was at first time weddings for a family friend at 48 and a 2nd cousin at 58!)

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@luluvohn:  I have never been a bridesmaid and have only heard horror stories about being one (which is why I’m not having any!) Good luck and godspeed- I have to assume some people enjoy doing this and have a fun experience or else the tradition would have died years ago, ha! 😉

Post # 16
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901 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

It’s great having bridesmaids who have previously been brides! All 3 of my bridesmaids have married already and they are the most useful and helpful ladies ever!

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