- 5 years ago
- Wedding: February 2013
Ugh so maybe I am over reacting, I dont know. Maybe I am entitled? Ugh
Long story short, we have 2 children. We are getting married in FI home town, which is a 5 hour drive away. When we visit, we always stay at his brothers, and his wife is my closest friend. I always felt a little akward staying there.
Anyway, we never ever stayed at his parents because his dad is very hard ot deal with, and his mom smoked in the house. Not good for the kids.
In September she was diagnosed with lung cancer, so we rushed to plan our wedding for Feb 2. In November she passed away.
Around here, everyone has a stag n doe, which is a big dance the BP throws to raise money for the couple. We are sort of counting on some of this money, since we didnt have alot of time to save. Our wedding is very simple, no dinner and I really dontk now where else to cut costs. We were also kind of “relying” (for lack of better word) for his mom to help with the kids that night.
Anyway, so after she passed, SIL (also MOH) and I agreed to hire a sitter to come to their house to watch my kids and her son. Today she said that night we will have to sleep in her unfinished basement, so her mom can come over to watch her son and that we will have to find some where else for our kids to go.
I am so upset, like the ONLY person we have to watch our kids is dead. I dont know what to do, I know its her house, and what not. But the party is for ME, and there is no point having it if I cant go because I dont have anywhere to take my kds.
I would never ever do that to her. Ever. I would find someone to watch all the kids, or send the son to her mothers so that a baby sitter could com to the house. Honestly I would do that. I would even stay home and watch her son so she could go to her own stag n doe (although I really dont expect her to do that for me)
I want to just cancell the whole thing. My family lives on the other side of the country and can only attend the wedding. But the Stag n doe is important to my FI and like I said we do need whatever help we can get.
Ugh ok so I guess an option is to stay at FFIL’s house. He doesnt smoke so thats ok. I just sooooo dont want to hes so horrible.
Just needed to vent and see if what you bees think before I confront my FI when he comes home