Post # 1
Hi Bees! So I know that I am going against the norm here and probably most of the replies will be its either out of anyone’s control or that is the way it is but I find it weird that a lot of you are happy with sharing the same dress with other brides! I mean…dont you want to be the only one wearing it??? I know its stupid but last Saturday I had a meltdown at home – I live on a very small island and only around 30,000 people live on the island and basically there is this rule at shops that only 1 dress of the same model can be sold (the 2nd identical dress can be sold only after the 1st one was worn and the 2nd bride would be warned about this). Now I know it is impossible to do that around the world…also, who can stop me to go to another country and buy the dress from there? But last saturday my FI helped out his friend who has this company of classic cars and had 4 weddings and 3 drivers and FI went to help him out and came back home telling me that the bride who got married had the same dress as me…I had a total meltdown and even considered buying another dress..I finally found out who got married and who is at the reception and got someone to send me a pic of the bride (you know living on a small island, you only have to ask a cousin or friend and whatever you dont know, they will know) – which turned out not having the same dress as me (but had the same illusion neckline as me but you know men – all dresses look the same)……….but back to the point – maybe it is because I live on a small island and everyone knows everyone and it is like a disgrace having the same dress as someone else and they would talk crap about you…what are your opinions…………as I said, this is impossible to do in the US but wouldnt you be pissed if a bride in the same village as you, got married in the same dress as you a week/a month or whenever before you especially if there is a big chance that there will be some same guests in both weddings? Please no hate here just opinions.
Post # 2
My dress is mass produced, so I can’t really expect no one else to have it. I’ll just acknowledge their awesome choice and take comfort in the fact that I’m rocking mine with a unique, awesome brooch, so it won’t be exactly the same.
Post # 3
- Wedding: October 2015 - Drury Lane
I’m a strong believer that the dress does not make the bride, the bride makes the dress. If you take a simple, A-line, strapless lace dress, one bride could completely deck it out by adding a blinged out belt, pearls, a fancy updo, and a huge bouquet of red roses. Another bride could take that exact same dress and wear cowboy boots, loose curls, and a bouquet of wildflowers. Even if you have a dress twin, you won’t ever look exactly the same.
That said, if you live on a small island where everyone knows each other, I could see how this would bother you. You may end up with guests who were also at that other bride’s wedding. But know that you can wear the same dress but add your own touch to it and no one will notice. They should be looking at you, not the dress.
Post # 4
I’m wearing a popular dress. It has been worn in a TV show and by a celebrity whose wedding photos were all over magazines at the time of her wedding. I’m wearing the dress differently from how it has been worn in these two contexts, you might consider that your overall look will very likely be different. I thought about the recognizability of the dress and decided that since it’s the dress that I liked the best, then I want to wear it, even if others have before me. I would suggest that you wear the dress that you like the best.
Post # 5
niki2015: Most wedding dresses look basically the same anyway, even if someone doesn’t have your exact dress, chances are they’ll have some version of it. I was pretty happy not to see a dress twin on here but I know they’re out there.
I’m mostly curious about which island you live one that has wedding dress rules??!!
Post # 6
- Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa
niki2015: I bought a dress and then added to it/altered it for this very reason. I am very picky and wanted the dress to be “me”, which is impossible if it is mass-produced and being worn by hundreds. I’m sure there are similar dresses, but none will be identical. Plus I put a lot of time into it, hand-sewing applique, so it is special to me because of the work I put in, too.
Post # 7
Of all the things in the world I could possibly care about, this would be at the absolute bottom of the list.
Even if you wear the same dress as someone else, your hairstyle, shoes, accesories, and attittude will be your own. Even if you design your own dress and have it custom made, there are still only so many ways to design a dress. Someone, somewhere, will have had a dress that looks almost like yours.
Post # 8
Do you know that I once heard someone commenting on another guest coz both of them attended the same wedding around a month before and one of them wore the same dress to both weddings?? I think all you bees never experienced life in a very small village! Do you know that I already have a list of things that went wrong at this year’s weddings at the same venue where im getting married coz everyone talks! (and I was not invited to these weddings). As I said no hate here – just opinions 🙂
I also have a dress which I cannot wear anything on it/with it to make it different coz it has a lot going on already.
People really express their feelings and sometimes they could hurt, sometimes without them knowing and do so out of jealousy and for you to get hurt!
Post # 9
It actually makes me a little nervous that no one else seems to wear my dress. It makes me think it’s actually ugly and I’m delusional for liking it. Obviously this is silly, but it would feel good to know a bunch of other brides also thought my dress was awesome and wanted to wear it.
Post # 10
I don’t know if I would even notice if someone wore my style of wedding dress. I’m debating donating it to charity, so someone may wear my exact wedding dress. It’s not going to be the same as me wearing it. Even if it was detail for detail, I think that someone else will look diffent in it just because it isn’t me. Also, I won’t be wearing my wedding dress at someone else’s wedding, and no one but my DH and I will remember what my wedding dress looked like. Even now, I bet if I asked his answer would be “It was ivory, their was lace and buttons.”
My grandma and my uncle’s mom wore the same dress in different colors to aunt and uncle’s wedding. It was talked about at both of their funierals as a touching story. The two women had a great relationship, and were friends before my aunt and uncle where married.
Post # 11
niki2015: You know I’ve often thought the same thing when I see post after post of the same dresses. While I would love to see someone else trying on my dress ot see it on someone other than the model; I think I’d be a little sad to really see it on someone else, especially before my wedding!
In the end it’s impossible I really only hope no one in my cirlce of friends would be close to my dress, total strangers eh I don’t care as much. Plus if someone were to feel as amazing in the same style as me I totally understand my dress is beautiful and it’s meant to make the wearere feel so! Plus I will be wearing 100 unique acessories so it won’t look the same as anyone else!
Post # 12
no one is going to remember. i couldn’t describe a single dress to you of the weddings i’ve been to except they were white and the brides looked nice. i remember the last wedding the dress was lace and sweetheart, similar to mine. but i could care less and the wedding before that, actually might have been mine.
Post # 13
niki2015: I’ve offered my dress to friends who got engaged recently so I think I’m not in the norm on this issue. I wouldn’t care a bit, but I’m also one who thinks that a great many dresses look exactly the same anyway, and I didn’t put a whole lot of emphasis on the dress, I just wanted something that made me look good.
Post # 14
I can understand you all with your replies – you live in a large country but I do not think that you will have the same opinion if your neighbour/cousin whoever wore the same dress as you were wearing a month before your wedding! All you showing off your dress to total strangers is because they do not live next to you! Do you show your dress to your guests before the ceremony? Aren’t any of you keeping the dress a surprise? Wouldn’t you comment if you had 2 weddings and you will be eager to see the bride and your first comment will be “Oh, she is wearing the same dress as the wedding I last attended”. Im trying to act as a “lawyer” here and heating up an argument 🙂 (Im no lawyer so probably am doing a crappy job lol)
Post # 15
I would suggest eloping away from the island – not because of your dress-twin, but because you are uncomfortable (just as I would be) with people all over town gossiping about your wedding. It seems that people will be talking, comparing and making unpleasant comments no matter what you do – probably also about catering, decroration and everything else. So let them talk and concentrate on having the wedding you and those you care about want. If you are happy with your choices, who cares what they think.