being a twin bride

posted 2 years ago in Dress
  • poll: what is your opinion on being a twin bride?
    I dont care - being worn the most means that it is the most beautiful dress : (12 votes)
    20 %
    I dont want anyone like me but it is out of my control : (10 votes)
    16 %
    I want a unique dress so I tailor made one for me : (6 votes)
    10 %
    no opinion - why do you waste your time on stuff like this?!?!?! : (33 votes)
    54 %
  • Post # 2
    4483 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    My dress is mass produced, so I can’t really expect no one else to have it. I’ll just acknowledge their awesome choice and take comfort in the fact that I’m rocking mine with a unique, awesome brooch, so it won’t be exactly the same.

    Post # 3
    73 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2015 - Drury Lane

    I’m a strong believer that the dress does not make the bride, the bride makes the dress.  If you take a simple, A-line, strapless lace dress, one bride could completely deck it out by adding a blinged out belt, pearls, a fancy updo, and a huge bouquet of red roses.  Another bride could take that exact same dress and wear cowboy boots, loose curls, and a bouquet of wildflowers.  Even if you have a dress twin, you won’t ever look exactly the same. 

    That said, if you live on a small island where everyone knows each other, I could see how this would bother you.  You may end up with guests who were also at that other bride’s wedding.  But know that you can wear the same dress but add your own touch to it and no one will notice.  They should be looking at you, not the dress.

    Post # 4
    716 posts
    Busy bee

    I’m wearing a popular dress.  It has been worn in a TV show and by a celebrity whose wedding photos were all over magazines at the time of her wedding.  I’m wearing the dress differently from how it has been worn in these two contexts, you might consider that your overall look will very likely be different.  I thought about the recognizability of the dress and decided that since it’s the dress that I liked the best, then I want to wear it, even if others have before me.  I would suggest that you wear the dress that you like the best.

    Post # 5
    1030 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    niki2015:  Most wedding dresses look basically the same anyway, even if someone doesn’t have your exact dress, chances are they’ll have some version of it. I was pretty happy not to see a dress twin on here but I know they’re out there.

    I’m mostly curious about which island you live one that has wedding dress rules??!!

    Post # 6
    2472 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa

    niki2015:  I bought a dress and then added to it/altered it for this very reason. I am very picky and wanted the dress to be “me”, which is impossible if it is mass-produced and being worn by hundreds. I’m sure there are similar dresses, but none will be identical. Plus I put a lot of time into it, hand-sewing applique, so it is special to me because of the work I put in, too.

    Post # 7
    3331 posts
    Sugar bee

    Of all the things in the world I could possibly care about, this would be at the absolute bottom of the list.

    Even if you wear the same dress as someone else, your hairstyle, shoes, accesories, and attittude will be your own. Even if you design your own dress and have it custom made, there are still only so many ways to design a dress. Someone, somewhere, will have had a dress that looks almost like yours.

    Post # 9
    1266 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    It actually makes me a little nervous that no one else seems to wear my dress.  It makes me think it’s actually ugly and I’m  delusional for liking it. Obviously this is silly, but it would feel good to know a bunch of other brides also thought my dress was awesome and wanted to wear it.

    Post # 10
    2792 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I don’t know if I would even notice if someone wore my style of wedding dress.  I’m debating donating it to charity, so someone may wear my exact wedding dress.  It’s not going to be the same as me wearing it.  Even if it was detail for detail, I think that someone else will look diffent in it just because it isn’t me.  Also, I won’t be wearing my wedding dress at someone else’s wedding, and no one but my DH and I will remember what my wedding dress looked like.  Even now, I bet if I asked his answer would be “It was ivory, their was lace and buttons.” 

    My grandma and my uncle’s mom wore the same dress in different colors to aunt and uncle’s wedding.  It was talked about at both of their funierals as a touching story.  The two women had a great relationship, and were friends before my aunt and uncle where married.

    Post # 11
    992 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    niki2015:  You know I’ve often thought the same thing when I see post after post of the same dresses. While I would love to see someone else trying on my dress ot see it on someone other than the model; I think I’d be a little sad to really see it on someone else, especially before my wedding!

    In the end it’s impossible I really only hope no one in my cirlce of friends would be close to my dress, total strangers eh I don’t care as much. Plus if someone were to feel as amazing in the same style as me I totally understand my dress is beautiful and it’s meant to make the wearere feel so! Plus I will be wearing 100 unique acessories so it won’t look the same as anyone else!

    Post # 12
    6158 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    no one is going to remember.  i couldn’t describe a single dress to you of the weddings i’ve been to except they were white and the brides looked nice.  i remember the last wedding the dress was lace and sweetheart, similar to mine.  but i could care less and the wedding before that, actually might have been mine. 

    Post # 13
    2323 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    niki2015:  I’ve offered my dress to friends who got engaged recently so I think I’m not in the norm on this issue.  I wouldn’t care a bit, but I’m also one who thinks that a great many dresses look exactly the same anyway, and I didn’t put a whole lot of emphasis on the dress, I just wanted something that made me look good.

    Post # 15
    351 posts
    Helper bee

    I would suggest eloping away from the island – not because of your dress-twin, but because you are uncomfortable (just as I would be) with people all over town gossiping about your wedding. It seems that people will be talking, comparing and making unpleasant comments no matter what you  do – probably also about catering, decroration and everything else. So let them talk and concentrate on having the wedding you and those you care about want. If you are happy with your choices, who cares what they think.

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