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I'm glad it's working out! Everything will come together-don't worry :)

glad it is working out!  I think we all have at least one freakout about having/getting to share the rest of our life & homes with the same man forever.  My freakout was about his lack of chores, but overall we share a lot of them.

I just think we have a lot of internal battles as women, as most of us saw our mom's in more traditional roles, but most of us work.  I used to joke that if he wanted me to take care of the house, then I should quit my (pretty well paying job).  Then, we just decided to joke about how WE need a housewife, and instead we hired a cleaning lady to come 1x/mo.  I honestly think this has significantly helped our marriage.  We both are salaried, which means we sometimes have to work long hours, and I am also in grad school, so I've just had to adjust my (and his!) expectations of the wife role.

I just wouldn't wait too long to see how it plays out naturally, as some resentment can build.  Maybe you can decide if you want to "share everything".  Otherwise, I'd recommend having at least 1 chore each that you volunteer to do all by yourself.  Then, appreciate it when he does that one chore.  For example, I am the laundry lady, and he is the dish guy...we share cooking.

I am not a Christian (sorry!), but I can only image the stress of trying to plan a wedding and commit the rest of your lives to each other, along with figuring out how to live together under the same roof and meld your domestic lives together at the same time.  I actually think that it's really good that you guys are essentially "playing house" even though you haven't actually moved in and started sleeping in the same bed yet.  While I know it seems stressful, it's great that you're identifying what some of the issues of living together will be, and you are addressing those issues now, before you get married.  It sounds like you guys were able to talk things out, and that you will be able to work through the challenges of moving in together and creating a life together.  The fact that he was willing to listen is definitely a great sign.  Good luck :-)