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Did anyone go to the bridal show in Brooklyn at BAM yesterday?

Being an adult sucks.

posted 2 years ago in Career
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    MissNewYork    July 9, 2011   Rochester, NY / Owego, NY

    This is a bit of a vent, as I am pretty frustrated right now. Trying to balance being a full time student, part time(+) employee, looking for a new full time real job for June, wedding planning, eating somewhat healthy, working out, getting a full nights sleep, seeing my family, seeing my friends, and spending time with my FI has me really frustrated. There are literally not enough hours in the day to get it all done.

    Part of the reason we chose to get married in 2011 is so I could have time to plan and not have to worry about doing that while I'm finishing school and getting a job, but there is still stuff to get done. And wedding planning is fun while some of those other tasks are not!

    Looking for a job also has me really stressed out. I sent in my resume for a job working for a company where I used to work. I'm more than likely going to get the job, sounds great right? It should be, but, I don't want the job. The work isn't really what I'd like to do, the hours are crazy early and the commute is long. But, FI doesn't want to leave his job here where we live and I'd rather have a job there than no job at all. I still have time before I graduate and it's possible that I'll find another job and this will be a moot point. But, jobs are scarce here (as they are everywhere) and this particular job pays really well.

    Anyway, today I'm wishing I were back in kingergarten. Naps, snacks and playtime? Yes, please!

     
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    toothfairyb    September 4, 2010   Vancouver, BC

    I'll get the cookies, you go get the blocks. Meetcha on the coloured squares where we'll sit criss-cross applesauce :)

     

    Hope it settles down for you soon. Don't forget to breathe!

     
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    vistagirl    march , 2010   Oregon

    i wish there was a like button. I totally think naps are wasted on the young/ unstressed!

     
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    clane616    May 7, 2011   Chicago; wedding in Florida

    Oh, I hear ya about not wanting to be an adult some days!  Be thankful you have an in for a job somewhere...so many people leaving college and even those that have a lot of job experience (like my FH) aren't so lucky.  I know it's not what you want but it seems like everyone is making mucho sacrifices these days and taking what they can get in the job market.  Thankfully it doesn't have to be your "forever job."  Wedding planning is a great distraction as long as we aren't thinking about paying for it! :-)

     
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    GirlWithARing    September 5, 2010   Living in NYC, marrying in Philadelphia

    I've been out in the real world for less than a year, and I must agree. I miss being a kid. 

     

    @MissNewYork - just out of curiosity, what kinds of things "must" get done so early out? I would think if you are so busy, you could put off planning for a few months?

     
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    2PeasinaPod       Philadelphia

    Oh I hear you on the naps, snacks and playtime! Hahaha...but, don't be discouraged about the job situation. The good thing is, you WILL have a job come graduation.

    I was the first graduating class after 9/11, and believe me, jobs were scarce! I got a job at the place I had been working PT, and I totally didn't want that job...it wasn't anything I wanted to do at all, but it was the only thing I got after graduation. Then, in October, they ended up laying off our entire sales force and half the people I worked with. It was a total wakeup call that I was super lucky to have the job.

    The layoff got my butt in full gear for job hunting again, and some random recruiter found my resume on monster.com. I ended up interviewing and getting the position, and now I've been with the company for 7 years. To say that I love my job is stretching it just a little, but it's in my field, and it's fabulous experience. Things may come along when you're least expecting it, so keep on applying and keep on trudging. Even when you start the job you don't want in June, don't let it stop you from looking for something else! At least you can look for a job while you're getting paid really well!

     

     
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    mssocks    October 10, 2010  

    Yeah, it's overwhelming sometimes.  I remember being little and telling my mother that I couldn't WAIT till I was big and I could do what I wanted.  She would always tell me that adults don't always get to do what they wanted.

    I didn't believe her then, but boy did I find out!  

    I'm so sorry that you might take a job that you'll dislike.  Sometimes we have to do things to get by, but if it will really make your heart hurt to do it, reconsider.  You don't want to be miserable all day on top of all of the stress you feel!

    I hope you find what's right for you.  I'm still struggling with being an adult too, and I graduated in 2008!  It's definitely tough and many times frustrating as hell.  I think it'll take some more getting used to ;-)

     
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    mrskesslertobe    September 18, 2010  

    I am a very young mom and the other day I started wondering when did I become the person exhausted by their children instead of being the exhausting child. Where did all that energy go? My kids could keep going forever, I am the one who truely needs nap time!

     
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    MissNewYork    July 9, 2011   Rochester, NY / Owego, NY

    Oh I'm so glad to hear I'll have some new classmates!

    And trust me I am really thankful that I have a job lead at all right now. When FI graduated (with his MBA) a few years ago he job hunted for 9 months! I'll gladly take it over being unemployed. I'm just a little bummed out at the prospect of waking up at 5 A.M. every morning and commuting an hour each way.

    @GirlWithARing - Nothing needs to get done right now. We'd like to decide on a venue before the end of the Summer but other than that we're okay putting stuff off. But like I said before, wedding planning is one of the fun things to do on my neverending to-do list.

     
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    MissAsB    June 6, 2009   Married in CO, Living in AL

    I know how you feel.  Maybe you could just take the other job just for the experience and then in a few months to a year when more jobs are available you have that job underneath you to help you get something that you really want.  I am trying to find a new job now, it's taking a lot longer than I thought it would sadly.

     

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