- 3 years ago
- Wedding: October 2014
So, Never in my 25 years would i have ever thought i would be bullied at work, after sitting through anti-bully seminars, talks, and pep rallies at various times over the last few years….
But sadly it is happening….Im being bullied everytime it turned around at work….and it all started when i was selected to become a new charge nurse at my job….it went really well for about a week, then things started changing….First it started with a little gruffness, a few rude comments about my weight(yea im plus size but i run circles around most of the other nurses much thinner than me and it dosent affect my job in any way shape or form, and im always clean and appropriate and im not so big that it would affect any aspect of my job…..one of the bullies is bigger than me) then it went to basically calling me stupid as i did 90% of the work, about and how i wasnt “fast enough” on things that werent hard at all, but they normally call someone else to do for them….for the first month it was only happening when id orient as charge nurse, but if i was on the floor it was fine….but then the last few weeks its gotten progressively worse and is happening from the second i clock in, and ive went up on my random day off to get something and they were sitting there making jokes about me, my weight, and basically how they “cant believe someone so dumb and worthless” got such a position, (even though my boss picked me, and i train 3/4 of the new staff which apparently im perfectly qualified for even according to them)…..
its gotten progressively worse and more blatant, ive been to my boss 2x and she dances around and says shell take care of it and handle it, and nothing has been done and its worse now, ive tried to take care of it myself, and that was the biggest mistake of my life….ever….i left in tears the next 4 mornings in a row….and it is only a few on my night shift crew…unfortunately, the 2 biggest ringleaders, who do the most bullying by far, their decisions carry the most weight in my boss’ eyes….and they are making it clear that they dont want me to have this promotion and if i dont quit theyll do anything to make sure i dont get it, even trying to blame things on me that happened when i wasnt even at work…..and my boss eats it up….
So now i have a “counseling” session with my boss next week….to discuss “interpersonal conflicts on the floor”…..but she keeps assuring me that she “wants me to continue to be the supervisor” because im qualified and who she wants to do this…..but guys….im soo miserable….i cry every single morning after i leave work, since i ALWAYS work with one of the 2 ring leaders even though ive asked for schedule changes….and brought the issues to them, my boss, my human rescources out reach out person (kind of like an interdeparment resource who works with several units, on resolving inter staff conflicts…. as well as other HR duties)
So here is the deal, do i give in and tell my boss i dont want the promotion and “let them win”, or keep toughing it out until i break…..
I do have the opertunity that were pretty sure were going to take next spring to move to another state for my FI’s job…..where there is other job oppertunities….infact more and better….but heres the kicker we can move this December, and he can start sooner, if we want the ball is in our court in that situaion but that means id still have to suffer for 5 more months of the bullies tactics if i continue to fight, or their smug faces if i give in, I do have a PRN job that has offered me full time hours if i want them, so i could take that and work there for a few months and just be prn at 2 jobs instead of full time at 1….
I just hate to feel like they win, apparently my boss is not going to resolve it or care at all….and the fact that theyve got away with this with 3 other nurses including getting 1 of those nurses fired for one of their mistakes….and they are my boss’ “favorites” because they are “her best nurses”….
I have until tuesday to make my decision….my FI says he loves me and will support me no matter what he just wants me to be happy and not see me comming home and crying anymore….i REALLY REALLY want to do this supervisor position, I really enjoy it, and like doiong it….but now im starting to hate it……because of these two…..what would you do….would you keep fighting, or just give up and count down the days until you move…