Post # 1
So I’ve been doing research on wedding traditions and two that I like most are handfasting and jumping the broom. My aunt is acting all trippy cuz she’s like well what are the origins of these rituals… and when I did the reasearch both were done as temporary and non legally recognized traditions and that jumping the broom in particular has slave origins… So i’m wondering is it a big deal where the tradition originated ( especially since I’m African American), or is it ok that I’m choosing the tradition just because of what it means?
TO me jumping the broom symbolizes sweeping away the old and welcoming the new… the two of you taking a leap of faith. And handfasting respresents a bind to the hands that are eternally comfort, love, and support you, etc… I think they are sweet. What do you bees think?
Post # 3
I thought “jumping the broom” was pretty typical for African-American weddings. Handfastingh is more of a pagan ritual originating in Ireland, I believe.
Post # 4
I agree with you on “jumping the broom”. It does have slave origins, but I think reclaiming the tradition in a positive way is sweet!
Post # 5
If you want to do a ritual or incorporate a tradition because it has personal meaning to you, regardless of your heritage or religion, I think it’s fine.
People get all bent out of shape over things that they don’t even understand. I’m thinking about having a Huppah at my wedding because I like what they represent. And my fiance’s father was adopted by a Jewish couple. Fiance may or may not be Jewish by blood, but I like the symbolism. Yet everyone is like, “oh that’s offensive.”
Then again, people tell me MY heritage and tradition of the bridal dance (wrongly AKA the dollar dance) is offensive so …. I must be a terrible person because I respect my ancestor’s traditions.
Sigh. Sorry, venting.
Bottom line: if it’s meaningful to you, I would go for it. If there’s one day in your life where you don’t have to worry about what other people think, it should be your wedding day!
Post # 6
I think you should definitely do whatever you want. Jumping the broom is apart of african american culture, during slavery and now. I know it’s hard when you’re trying to please everyone, but remember it’s you and your FH day. Don’t let people stress you out. You’ll already be stressed enough!
Post # 7
@poetiksoul1225: I would say whatever you and Fiance find meaningful is what you should do. We have included/omitted traditions based on this. Make it the wedding you and Fiance want it to be, that’s what’s important.
Post # 8
I am also African American and I considered jumping the broom. There are more traditions in our lives that stem from slavery or some other negative historical event. I wont get into all the many other aspects of the current African American culture that stems from something that makes me cringe. On the other hand, jumping the broom does mean taking a leap of faith and you will be putting a modern spin on things.
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Post # 9
Jumping the broom also seems to have its origins in Welsh gypsy/Romani communities…at least according to Wikipedia. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jumping_the_broom