Being married FEELS so different. Do you agree?

posted 4 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
8975 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I lived with my husband before getting married… to me it feels exactly the same. I’m glad you’re feeling happier, though.

Post # 5
5012 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

Other than being a lot more chilled because we don’t have a wedding to plan, we haven’t really changed much. We lived together in a house we own together for a while before marriage, so it was always unlikely to be a big change.

Post # 6
1367 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013


I totally know what you mean.  We had a civil ceremony in March with our reception coming up in a few weeks.  I thought that without the celebration with friends and family it wouldn’t feel like being married but it totally did feel different.  We also lived together for 2 years before we took the plunge.

Post # 7
6751 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

Interesting. All my friends, even the ones who didn’t move in together beforehand, said being married felt no different.

Post # 8
9169 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

It does feel different to me, which is weird because I’ve been with my guy for over a decade, we own a house together, we’ve been committed for life for years, etc. But somehow things do feel more comfortably permanent. In day to day life it’s all the same – but there is a different feeling. 

Post # 11
4499 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I hope it feels different (even though its fabulous now!) but I’m not expecting it to. We’ve lived together for 8 years (dated for 12), own a home together, share all of our responsibilities and bills, etc. In my mind we’re already married.

Post # 12
1781 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

It feels different to me too! We’d already been living together and committed to each other, but being husband and wife feels so permanent and mature! My heart skips a beat when I notice his wedding band. Definitely exciting!

Post # 13
9169 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

@adoc86:  That was our situation too (well, 13 years) and it feels different for us 🙂

@Chelwilly:  Me too, I love seeing his ring (and I totally remember him geeking out over the ring on my hand when we first got engaged).

Post # 14
1652 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011


Yes I felt the same and still do! Marriage feels even better and more committed than living together. I love it!

Post # 15
1234 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

We lived together for about a year before we got married and it did feel slightly different at first, just more like we were a team and ready to take on the future. After we joined our accounts and set up mutual funds it really hit. Now, whenever something stressful comes up I feel more relaxed knowing my husband is by my side and together we’ll get through it.

Post # 16
11183 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Being married feels extremely  different to me, since my DH and I had an LDR and lived in different states when we met and until we were married.  Because of our faith, we also didn’t live together or have a sexual relationship until marriage, so, obviously, that was a huge  difference for us. 

We’ve now been married for four years, and I am still discovering new and deeper levels of oneness that have developed in our relationship as a result of marriage.

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