Being married really DOES feel different!

posted 2 years ago in Married Life
Post # 2
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

It feels the same to me….

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

For us not much changed.  While it does feel nice to share a name and call him my husband, our relationship is not really any different.  

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

wildflowerbee:  LOL. Yeah, I’m in NYC so NOBODY cares if you’re married or not. Aside from changing my name (which was a bit annoying) I havent felt a difference and nobody has said anything or treated us differently. 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

wildflowerbee:  I actually totally agree with you. There is an indefinable something that changed after marriage for me, even after being together for so many years beforehand. Just a peace and comfort and confidence and connectedness that ties us together in a new way. I wasn’t really expecting anything to change, but I absolutely adore married life and I think it really made a difference to our relationship.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

wildflowerbee:  There is a difference for you. That’s the thing. That doesn’t mean that there’s a difference for everyone.

The main difference for us was that we weren’t stressed about getting engaged or getting married, but otherwise nothing really changed. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June, 2014

wildflowerbee:  the pressure of wedding bs is off us now and I’m not so anxiety riddled that I feel like throwing up all the time. Aside from that, nope. Relationship is still just as stable and committed as it was pre-wedding. My last name is different (miserable experience) and I moved but we’re the same people in the same relationship. I actually thought something was wrong with me because I didn’t feel any different. Maybe there is. 

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Absolutely EVERYTHING changed for us, because just about everything was new to us as a couple once we were married.

For many reasons, marriage was an enormous transition for us, and we had an additional challenge —  we lived in two different states half of each week for almost the first year of our marriage until I could sell my house, resign from my then-job, and relocate full time.

Becoming a wife, finally sharing that level of physical and spiritual intimacy with someone, becoming a stepmother, taking a new name, relocating to another state, taking on the role of pastor’s wife, learning to discuss financial matters as a couple, etc. all were new experiences for me.

 

Post # 12
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Helper bee

Since I am living in France there was one major change: I transitioned from being mademoiselle (which always sounded very demeaning to me, while French women consider it flattering, since it makes them feel younger) to madame – yeah!

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Valparaiso, IN

Well, I commented on that post that was started shortly before you, but I’m going to say basically the same thing I said there.

I don’t know what changed. But something did when I got married. I feel like I don’t see my single friends as often. And when I need advice I gravitate towards married women because, well, they’ve been there. But other things have changed too. I care about DH’s opinion in everything, because we are one now. It’s not that I didn’t care about his opinion before, because I did, but it’s a different dynamic now. I do feel connected to him differently too.

Post # 15
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Busy bee

It definitely FEELS different (in a good way!), even though nothing in our day-to-day life has changed because we already lived together for quite a while. More connected, more committed, and more closeness!

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