Post # 1
I wanted to check and see if I’m odd for feeling this way.
I’m excited to be getting married to my fiance and taking his last name. It will be a little weird to adjust to, and I do like my current last name, but I don’t feel that I’ll be losing my identity or anything due to this. My new name will have a nice ring to it, as well (though my signature will look like crap).
Anyway, I just can’t stand the thought of being called “Mrs. HisLastName”. That’s his mom! Not me! I don’t want a personalized hanger with “Mrs. XYZ” on it. I don’t want a tank top with it, I don’t even want people refering to me as that!
So, am I the only one that is excited to have a new last name to go with their first name, but not excited to be called “Mrs”?
Post # 3
Mrs. feels like old lady to me ,but I know it’s not. I may be in denial about my age. But I think I’ll be okay with being Mrs. XYZ. I get called that all the time anyways.
Post # 4
It’s a bit awkward at first, but you’ll get used to it. We’re not even married yet, but I’m starting to get Mrs Hislastname and it’s getting more familiar the more it’s used.
Start calling his mom something else now so you can own your soon to be new name!
Post # 5
@thursdayschild: haha thats part of the problem. we haven’t had “the talk” yet. though, she called the other day and said “Hi! It’s FirstName!!”. we’re getting there 🙂
Post # 6
I didn’t take DH’s name, but when I was making that decision, listing the pros and cons of changing my name, the idea of being called “Mrs. HisLastName” was a con.
I suppose I just generally attribute the title “Mrs.” with women older than myself. I also felt like being called “Mrs.” made me sound like an extension of my husband rather than an individual person — I know some people love that aspect of it, but it just wasn’t okay with me.
Post # 7
My current last name means nothing to me (it is my mother’s ex husband’s last name and it was just easier for her to give me that name as she was single when she had me but she still had that name as did my older brother.) So I can not wait to have the same last name as my FH and our 2 kids. But I totally agree that it will be wierd to be Mrs HisLastName; because, like you said, that is his Mum!
Post # 8
At least, I’m assuming, your first name is different from your Future Mother-In-Law. I had a friend named Katherine, Mother-In-Law, Kathryn, so they were both Mrs. AlmostSameFirstName HisLastName. Threw her for a loop initially, for sure!
Post # 9
It could be worse. You could work for the same school as your Mother-In-Law, so all the kids get confused as to which Mrs. HisLastName you are. Or, you could get emails from your co-workers meant for your Mother-In-Law. Oh wait… that’s me. 🙂
Post # 10
@subbywife11: hahaha oh thats funny! but unfortunate. im assuming you two have a nice relationship though, right??
@love108: im good in that regard :). i can’t imagine how strange that must be. my fiance and his 3 siblings have first names that start with M, as does his sister-in-law! they just had a baby and gave him an R name, thank goodness! but ill be the first non-M of that generation. my name is laura- and my fiance’s brother was dating a lara for a little while there. i (selfishly) got concerned because we prounced our names the same and i would have been upset having to share my married name! hahah
Post # 11
@September29: Oh yes, we have a fabulous relationship! It’s so weird, though, seeing things on our database at work that are for her. When I’m doing a report, for example, I type in a few letters and everyone with those letters in their name pop up. So, her name is right next to mine AND we have the same initials. No wonder everyone gets confused!!
Post # 12
Doesn’t bother me. I find it kind of exciting.
Post # 13
I am an encore bride and I never ever liked being Mrs. EX-XYZ
Maybe because I am finally getting rid of the ex’s last name or maybe because I am older I love being Mrs. NEWXYZ but the funny thing is that no one can pronounce his last name (he is Filipino)
Honestly one of the most special moments when his mom addressed me as Mrs. NEWXYZ on facebook and how honored I was to share her name. His mom is a huge gift to me and so I think it makes it all the more special sharing that with her.
Post # 14
I feel the same! That’s his mom’s name. I don’t mind taking the new last name, but being a Mrs. will be weird.
Post # 15
Luckily I wont have that problem, since FH has his fathers last name who wasnt married to Future Mother-In-Law.
Although I guess I do understand what youre saying. It is a little weird. But I think I’d get over it if she did have the same last name
Post # 16
I’m not into the whole “becoming Mrs. XYZ!” thing…I don’t know, I really like my last name and I am going to take FH’s, but I guess there’s no thrill in it for me. I like my name and my identity that goes along with my name…I don’t know, maybe it’s because we’ve been together for five years and have a kid and a house that I don’t feel like I’m ‘becoming’ anything 😉