Post # 1
Curiosity strikes because I was in a weird situation recently and I didn’t know what to think.
I was over at BFF’s house and she has a 5 yr old son. We were getting ready for the day and I hopped in the shower. After I got out, I discreetly made my way into her bedroom to get dressed for privacy.
Next thing I know, she walks into the room – naked – with her 5 yr old son in tow, also naked. I was like, “BFF should he should be seeing another woman who’s not his mother naked?” To that she replied, “OMG he’s only 5, he doesn’t know any better.”
This little boy would not stop staring at me, which is 100% out of his curiosity, but he also had an, er umm…erection. I was mortified and could not have gotten dressed faster!
At what age do you begin not doing this with your child? I clearly upset her with asking this, but honestly, would you let your child see another person naked at all?
Post # 3
@ShabbyChicBee: Im a pretty modest person but I have been in a towel around my son. Granted he couldn’t see anything but that’s as far as it went. Up until he was about 2.5 he would take showers with me, partly because it was easier and partly because it’s the only way I could take a shower in peace lol. I think what happened to you is rather inappropriate though. He’s 5, that’s old enough to be aware that he’s seeing a naked woman and be really curious about it. I doubt the erection was something he understood though. sometimes that happens randomly to kids his age.
Post # 4
Um… no. I would be mortified if I was in your shoes in this situation.
Post # 5
@ShabbyChicBee: Honestly, iMO, 5 seems too old for that. When I was 5 I had already gotten the sex talk and knew about all that stuff so 5 is definitely not “too young to know” imo (I guess this depends on the child but I feel like 5 is def old enough to know). I agree with PP that the erection was probably not related since that happens to a lot of little boys, starting even younger than that.
Also it’s weird that your friend didn’t consider if it made YOU uncomfortable. Like cool if she and her kid aren’t awkward, but she should’ve thought about how you would feel in that situation!
Post # 6
Personally, our family (DH, DD (9) and I) is pretty open. We don’t close doors to change or go to the washroom if it’s just us at home, but if we have company, that definitely changes.
Post # 7
If it was in the locker room at the pool or something, I wouldn’t have a problem with this – I think it’s not a really big deal for young children to see naked women in that kind of situation, because it’s pretty normal to change in that setting. I’d be a bit weirded out if I was dressing in the privacy of a room in someone’s home and this happened, though. I think overall people are a little hung up about nudity, but you were changing privately and it’s pretty rude for her to enter (with or without her child) without your permission.
My daughter has certainly seen other people naked as we used to go to public pools quite regularly, and where we come from, people don’t hide while they’re changing. At her age (10), I wouldn’t feel comfortable with her seeing a bunch of naked men (mostly because she’d be giggling to death) but naked people in a place where public nudity is acceptable isn’t a problem to me as a parent. I do expect her to respect other people’s feelings and privacy however and would never walk into a room where someone else was changing like your friend did.
Post # 8
@ShabbyChicBee: 5 is WAY too old for that! I used to shower with my youngest little brother but that stopped at the age of three because at four and five you become VERY aware and even gain memories….I don’t blame you for being mortified! If the mom wants to be like that then it is fine but with guests? Hell no!
Post # 9
@kittyface: I agree that nudity isn’t a huge deal. My sister is ten and still sees me or mom get undressed but the opposite sex is totally different! A public pool is also one of those ‘you can’t help it’ situations, much like seeing a mother breastfeed in public, you can’t help it!
Post # 11
I remember similar situations at the pool locker rooms before the family change rooms became common. Boys would point and laugh or stare. If they are old enough to notice they are too old to be seeing it.
Post # 12
I saw my mom naked when I was little, I even remember showering with her when I was young when we were traveling and staying in a hotel. It wasn’t a big deal. But never my dad. I took swimming lessons when I was 3-4 years old and saw naked women in the dressing room all the time.
Post # 13
If it was a little girl, I think it would be totally in the realm of “normal” but not a boy. 5 years old is too old. That said, my daughter is two and while I let her see me naked, I do not allow her to see SO naked.
Post # 14
That sounds like something my European mother would do, mortify everyone with nudity. Must be something in the water across the pond. lol.
Post # 15
It’s one thing to see your parents naked, it’s a totally different thing to see your mom’s friend naked! I can’t believe this — it was inconsiderate of your feelings as well as inappropriate for the boy. I’m sure that at 5 years old he knows plenty… as evidenced by the erection.
Post # 16
Nudity isn’t a huge deal to me…if its my family.i wouldn’t be ok with my kids seeing a friend or a friends kid seeing me. My mom constantly changed in front of us growing up and so did my grandma. For my wedding my mom, an aunt, and grandma all got ready sharing a room and bathroom. Lots of body parts showing, none of us cared.