(Closed) Being Ready to TTC v Wanting to TTC

posted 5 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
Member
406 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I can relate. DH and i are in the same exact spot- and the same exact timeline. we are going to TTC in August. Last month we had an ‘oops’ and i was convinced i was pregnant after some symptoms a couple weeks later. Anyway, it got us both thinking- why wait? But, we decided to keep our timeline, and while part of me is really ready, the other part is fine with it. 

My first thought- 6 months is going to absolutely fly by. Also, in the grand scheme of things, 6 months is such a short period of time. I know that doesnt help right for you, but try and put it in perspective. I try and remember other periods of time that i thought we’re going to feel like forever- when we were engaged for example. I was beside myself waiting 10 months to get married once we got engaged, and now its 3 years later and that seems so silly that i felt like that. I dont know if this helps, but its what i tell myself. 

Another bonus of conceiving in aug/sep is that you’ll have a spring/early summer baby, which i’m excited about (nice spring walks, and a maternity leave in spring/summer is much better than one in winter if you work!)

And of course, spend time lavishly doing all the things you wont be able to… heres some of what we are doing: 

Spending lots of time on our house- small projects, landscaping, etc

Traveling- if you can afford it. Doesnt have to be big trips.. we’re even doing weekend trips and overnighters. We have saved up for one big trip- to hawaii- in april. Our “babymoon” 🙂 

Spending lots and lots of time with friends. Hosting dinner parties, getting together and going bowling, etc. 

Leisurely activities we enjoy- reading lots of books, cooking new recipes, etc. 

 

Hope that helps. Hang in there- it will be here before you know it. 

 

 

Post # 4
Member
12250 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

We’ve been waiting to TTC basically since we got engaged! We’re going to start trying on the wedding night, but oh MAN I want one NOW!

And I work with infants 6 weeks to 8 months old, so I see them every single day!

I understand that it’s worth waiting for (so I can enjoy the honeymoon cruise with no motion/morning sickness), but every single day it gets worse and worse!

Post # 5
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1627 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@Soon2BeeMrsG:  Hi fellow Nov. wedding bee!  I remember some of your posts from when we were planning our weddings, so it’s great to see you on this board now too!

For the “pre-TTC bucket list” I definitely think it depends on the person and the age.  DH and I were originally thinking of waiting around a year from our wedding date to start TTC, but actually just started NTNP at the beginning of March.  We talked it out and eventually want to move in which I would have to switch jobs b/c of the commute (over 1.5 hours).  I don’t want to start a new job and get pregnant right away; it’s just not a smart idea professionally for my field.  This way, pending we get pregnant within the next few months, we’ll move maybe 3-6 months after the maternity leave. I’ve worked at my great company for 4 years and they will be excited, happy and supportive of us when we are pregnant. I guess that was more important to me (setting myself up in a good position career-wise and still having children).

For other people I’ve talked to who are pro-waiting, they seem to have things on their list they want to do before children.  I know a big one is traveling.  Is there somewhere you want to visit before you are pregnant?  Somewhere out of the country or even somewhere within?

Another item seems to be buying a house.  Do you already own your own place or is that an item on the “to do” list before conceiving? 

Or, if you’re a thrill seeking, have you been sky-diving?  I could never do it, but am so jealous of those who can!

Good luck to you guys!! Smile

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