Post # 1
Hi, I need some honest input here… I’ve been lurking on here on and off for over a month now. My bf and I have been together a little over 2 years, living together 2 years. (We went to hs together so already knew each other) Anyways, without getting into it too deep, he bought a ring, had it sized, and has left it at the jewelers for 2 weeks. I have been sooooo sad, and resentful and just plain YUKKY knowing it’s there and he hasn’t picked it up. Okay, the logical part of me understands he’s not sure where or when to do it. The GIRL in me is like REALLLLY, WTH, JUST ASK ME 🙁 I’ve been watching friends get engaged around me a LOT lately and I’m spending a lot of time crying because I’m taking it as, he doesn’t love me or he wouldn’t leave it there, if it was a boat would he leave it with the seller…. I am losing it. And we are leaving in less than 2 weeks to go to Costa Rica for 2 weeks…. I HOPE it doesn’t drive me nuts the whole time I’m down there…lol Am I being ridiculous????
Post # 3
weddingbee is probably the best place for you right now. Girls here are very supportive and I wish I would have found this site while I was waiting.
My Fiance took me ring shopping and I picked out a ring. Then he told me he didn’t buy it and was just looking. I waited for a couple months and really realized OK he doesn’t love me he isn’t going to propose. But then he proposed on my birthday with the ring I picked out. He even asked my parents for my hand right after he bought the ring (which was when he said he didn’t). He told me he really wanted it to be special and was even kind of nervous about asking me.
So, with that said, I think it is normal for you to feel like this. Try to remember that he has already got a ring for you. He may be nervous. But it definitely does not mean he doesn’t love you. Try to do other things to get your mind off of it.
Post # 4
Thank you for your words of encouragement 🙂 I’ve done nothing BUT keep busy, I’m getting wiped out!! lol I TRY not to think about it and it works for a while, but it’s ALWAYS lurking around the corner 🙁 I see other girls waiting a LOT longer for it, but I know I don’t have that kind of endurance. I guess I will start coming here daily and try not to take it out on him (or anyone else in my path)
Post # 5
Just be patient. He may be waiting for the perfect opportunity!
Post # 6
From an outsider looking in… it seems like this trip to Costa Rica might be part of his plan to propose! And since you live together, he probably doesn’t want to keep in your home so that you don’t find it.
Let him do it on his own time…it’s a guy thing 🙂
Post # 7
Sounds to me like you may have a beautiful costa rican proposal on the way – NOT that you should freak out about it the whole time. But my bet is that he has left the ring at the jewelers because he’s afraid of losing it if he has it for too long.
Post # 8
I agree with everyone else! I know it’s really hard to wait when you KNOW he has the ring. My fiance and I looked at rings last August and he didn’t propose until December. I knew he had paid for/made final decisions in November so I was just waiting. Try not to let it consume your time though because it will drive you both a little crazy! I thought I knew when he was going to propose so when that time came I was so anxious that when he didn’t I was on the verge of tears (when he was just planning on doing it a few hours after I thought he was going to). It will happen 🙂
You’ll have to let us know how your trip to Costa Rica is!
Post # 9
You’re not being ridiculous! I would have been the SAME way if I had any clue it was coming.And please don’t cry! He has the ring, you know he loves you! It’s something he needs to do when the time is right. :o)
Just try to relax, keep yourself busy, and think about your wonderful trip! It’s Costa Rica! Be excited for that! And keep us all posted!
Post # 10
well I AMMMM super excited about Costa Rica….lol He definitely won’t bring ring to CR, and I wouldn’t want him to. I just wish I hadn’t opened my mouth to a few people, so they are wondering where it is…lol I think that’s a bigggg part of my insecurity, what other people will think, dumb, right? We went to Costa Rica last February too, and I really can’t wait, we have been PUMMELED with snow so far this winter, and that 90 degree sun and 80 degree ocean is definitely calling my name haha You girls are awesome!!! I’m so glad I posted!!!!! XOXO 🙂
Post # 11
Is he going with you to Costa Rica? If he is, he’ll probably do it there. I know how you feel, though. Fortunately I had no idea when my Fiance had actually bought the ring (although I was VERY anxiously waiting). Turns out he bought it 6 weeks before he asked me (if I’d known I would’ve killed him!) He hung on to it because he didn’t know how to do the “perfect proposal.” When it came time he just kinda busted it out randomly because he was so frustrated at not being able to think of something more special and romantic!
Your guy likely has a plan already or is trying to think of one. It sucks, but try to hang in there a little longer. At least you know he has the ring!
Post # 12
Oh hun, I understand your pain for sure. But if you guy has purchased a ring and gotten it sized, I’d say that chances are pretty great that he’s got a plan in mind. Give him a chance to enact it—he may blow you away! 🙂
Post # 13
I bought the ring with Fiance, and he made me wait a month to get it! It doesn’t seem that long, but in “waiting time,” that’s forever! Definitely just hang out here, we’ve almost all been through it, and a bunch of the Bees are going through it now.
Just remember, he loves you or he wouldn’t have bought that ring! He’s just leaving it at the jewelers so he can stage his perfect proposal. Keep your chin up!
Post # 14
We picked out my dream ring in March and I didn’t get it until new years eve! Don’t let it ruin what sounds like an amazing vacation, it will happen before you know it.
Post # 15
Oh honey, yes you are being ridiculous… But its understandable!!! Try not to let it drive you crazy because, trust me, you’ll really appreciate the time it takes him to plan a really nice way to propose. Just push it from your mind. Do not stress about it. I’m sure there is a good reason he is waiting.
Post # 16
Actually, I had no idea my fiance was going to propose. According to him, he woke up one day, and didn’t want to wait any longer (even though we had only been dating for … like less than 7 months [lemme preface that with, we have known each other our whole lives and dated before right before he moved away to college) anyways, he went out that morning, bought the ring, and proposed that day in front of the church he wanted to marry me at. As sweet and spontaneous as it is, there is a tiny little tiny part of me that wished he would’ve waited and maybe planned a little more. So the grass is always greener! Once he proposes you’ll realize how silly this all is. Just try your best to not think about it. Sorry!