being sensible or delaying?

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
499 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

This seems to be a typical problem.  

You need to make your feelings clear without offering an ultimatium.  You feel somewhat tricked.  If living together was a priority to him to get to the goal of marriage it would of happened.

Post # 4
3570 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think he is being sensible.  Living with parents is nothing like being out on your own. If you guys can’t afford to rent an apartment, you shouldn’t be thinking about engagement yet anyway.  Just enjoy the fact you are no longer 2 hours away from him. 

Post # 5
716 posts
Busy bee

@MrsTVLover:  +1


He’s not tricking you.  You both had a plan, things did not work out due to yours and/or his finances, so the plan must be reevaluated.  He’s trying to be sensible.  

Post # 8
62 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2014


Rest easy.  He is being sensible.  I would be shocked if any of my self-respecting male friends would even entertain the thought of engagement while still living with parents to save money.

You’ve only been living together for 3 months, and at his parents’ home.  Bringing up engagement may be very suffocating for him as he is worried about money issues as well.  This may be so even if he loves you to death and cannot imagine being anyone else!  

My advice is to re-explore this about a year after living at a place of your (both of you) own.  

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