Post # 1
Tomorrow is my wedding and I am focusing on the good, really I am, just letting myself have a vent moment here to forget about all the negative things I’m dealing with today.
In all the planning we’ve done over the past few months I’ve dealt with so many etiquette no-nos and hard to handle people over the year. Tonight into tomorrow is when I have to deal with them and be gracious and act like nothing ever happened. It sucks. really. bad.
Wrapping and giving presents to girls who, I thought, were going to help out with the wedding and did nothing. These ended up being shower gifts for helping my mom out months ago, but wrapping them and getting them ready for the girls reminded me of hwo they dropped out of helping with my wedding 2 weeks ago. I’m going to miss them there, they don’t have a good reason to be coming to the ceremony/reception late…. but I was informed they were going to arrive after our ceremony a few days ago. They dropped out to do something else with another friend earlier that afternoon and will not be there with me until the ceremony like they promised. I have no idea how I will feel about them after the wedding but right now I’m hurt. I’m going to be alone getting ready in a seperate room in our venue without the support of my friends.
Also, dealing with FH’s family. If anyone knows me, they know these people are seriously a little whacky. I’m positive nearly every family member could benefit from counseling, with everything from super controlling, manipulative, spiteful people to those with criminal records and those who get wasted all the time. These people have all treated FH so badly and verbally abused me several times in person and over the phone since our engagement.
I’ve forgiven them but I never want to see them again. There’s really no redeeming our relationship at this point and I look forward to after the wedding when I will probably never have to glue on a happy face and be gracious to them. Thank God they live far away.
Now to pull on my big girl panties and deal with it.
Good thing is, I act for a living. Bad thing is, I never wanted to have to act at my own wedding. Praying FH and I will be so happy to be together everything else pales in comparison tomorrow. I am choosing to focus on the positives and push down every sad feeling I have tomorrow.
Post # 3
Deep Breaths! I am so sorry about your friends bailed on you – that is just horrible, rude and downright selfish – the least they could have done was given you more notice. Its probably better they aren’t there, you need to surround yourself with people who WANT to celebrate your special day.
Just remember that your wedding is all about you and your (soon to be!) husband – It will be a beautiful day. Remember that you have planned all that you can and the rest of the day is just going to happen no matter what, Try not to worry about little things and just let go of control and enjoy every second of your day, if things get crazy take a few minutes and sneak away somewhere quiet and take a few minuts to just enjoy each others company and be swallowed up in the happiness of newlywedded bliss!
I hope things go smoothly – enjoy every second of your wedding day – dont let other people bring you down. Dont act 🙂 just be happy that you are marrying the man of your dreams.
Good Luck! and Congratuatlions!
Post # 4
I’m so sorry about your poopy experiences! No one deserves that 🙁
With that being said, YOU ARE GETTING MARRIED TOMORROW!!! Congratulations and try not to let all that crap ruin your day. This is about you and your new husband and don’t let anyone take the happiness away from you that you so deserve.
Enjoy every single moment of your day. And post pics too. Like asap. 🙂
Post # 5
You are doing the right thing! and yes the big girl panties suck but you will look back and feel good about how you acted!
Congrats on tomorrow and I can’t wait to see your pictures!
Post # 6
Hang in there!!!!!
I dealt with a TON of drama (mostly from my OWN family) and it created such hell during my wedding planning.
BUT – on the wedding day, I received the BEST advice which I CLUNG TO DEARLY – which was: don’t worry about ONE detail – let other people worry about the decision. The only thing you should do is focus on YOU and YOUR Fiance and the commitment you are about to make.
People will ask you the most RANDOM questions tomorrow…. on my wedding day, my ‘textbook’ response was: “Whatever you feel is best”, with a smile. 🙂 Because at that point, it DIDN’T matter.
I’m sorry about your friends and the lack of support you desired – and tomorrow will be no different. They will be consumed with their hair, makeup and looking good. If you can ask someone to help you get ready (perhaps the person you trust most) that might be a good thing – just to have some companionship and someone to help you INTO your dress, etc. Some of my favorite moments of getting ready where with my MUA – she was so sweet and wonderful and had NOTHING to do with my life other than the wedding. It was the most calming thing and I didn’t have to think about how everyone else was worried about themselves. 😉
re: the wedding day in general: I planned and planned and tried to anticipate all I could. I’m sure you’ve done the same. And now it was time to just enjoy the day and not worry about any one elses ISSUES or insecurities.
ENJOY tomorrow – it will go by quickly. Savor each moment of love, anticiipation, and the well wishes of your friends and family.
If you experience is anything like mine – I bet DH’s whacky family will simmer down and you will wonder what happened to the whacky people and where these kind, happy people came from. 🙂
Post # 7
Thank you so much for all your support. It really helped for me to come back and read the comments after the setting up hellish day lol.
I just had a drink and am feeling more at ease haha. I know I’ll probably have another tomorrow afternoon. 😛
Everything is going well and it’s so beautiful 🙂 I will post pictures asap, thankfully our photographer gets hers up relatively quickly so I’ll have a few to share in a week or so at the most!
So many unknowns. 🙁 Less than 24 hours and we have no idea what’s going on with FH’s family. They haven’t contacted him all week or month and all we know is they’re coming, last we heard. My friends who bailed never got back with me about what time they will be there. I’m thinking they may miss the ceremony. Hoping they don’t but just in case. :/
I’m honestly really sad about them right now. After I trusted they’d come through for me, I don’t know how our friendship will be after the wedding. I’d like to say they care but I haven’t heard from them all week. It’s really hard.
BUT… highlight of my day was in picking a final dance song with FH and writing out vows together. I love that man and am so happy to marry my best friend 🙂 I can’t wait to share all the details with you ladies. <3
Post # 8
(((HUGS))) Have a beautiful day. 🙂
Post # 9
Sending happy thoughts and well wishes to you on your wedding day!!!! ENJOY!!!!