Post # 1
I feel really stupid even talking about this, but someone needs to put me in my place 😛
Every time I find a bridesmaid dress that I like/love/whatever, I get a pang of jealousy that its Too pretty, and that I need to pick something more plain because my BM’s will look prettier than me. I have some serious issues with myself feeling very average, and I am having a hard time picturing myself being beautiful at all on our wedding day. I’m going for the hollywood glam look, so I keep finding these beautiful skinny dresses with low backs and wonderful colors, but then I think they look too gorgeous and they’ll overpower me (and I end up wanting the dress for myself). Oh, it doesn’t help that I’m not even 5 feet tall, so I want to make my BMs wear flats so they don’t look taller than me.
Does anyone else feel this way? I’m having such a hard time making a decision on BM dresses because of this!
Post # 3
my Bridal party is gorgeous so i just got them a simple short strapples pocket dress…. its natural to mkae sure its your day!
Post # 4
Activate Self Esteem!!!! The day is about you and everyone will be looking at you! Find a gourgeous dress for your girls, and get one for yourself if you really like it so much, but know that everyone will be looking at how beautiful you look!
Post # 5
I dont think there is anything wrong with that honestly lol
I went bridesmaids dress shopping yesterday with my BFF for her wedding and there was one dress that I LOVED but it was too sexy and she told me so. She was like…no you look too hott in that lol I just laughed it off cause its her day and she gets to dress me however she wants….Ill get my turn (muahahaha…jk)(sorta)
Post # 6
You BMs looking gorgeous – Makes you look gorgeous! You are the bride! Everyone will be looking at you!!!!!! They are like your accessories 😉
Post # 7
I loved my BM dresses and I really wish I had bought one for myself to wear another time. I think that as the bride you will be radiant and dont worry about them outshining you. My sister is 6 foot, size 6 and tan because she lives in hawaii, so I knew my BM would look HOTTER in anything i got them, but i felt so special as the BRIDE it was no big deal.
Here is me and my supermodel of a sister.
Post # 8
HAHAH Mrs Martin, thats priceless. I’m going to try and think about it that way 😀
Vistagirl: wow I’d want that dress too! It’s hard looking at pretty dresses when theyre not for you, right? You both look really beautiful together, I think she compliments you nicely.
You guys are too funny! I totally didn’t expect you all to agree with me; everyone picks out such beautiful bm dresses! Thanks for letting me be a silly bride 🙂
Post # 9
@DaisyLynn: Love that!!
Admittedly, I am a very self conscious girl with body image issues. When I was about 13 my step-grandmother told me I will always be “big boned” and that kind of did it in for me. I am a size 8 and my bridal party is comprised of three amazingly beautiful women who are all smaller than me. I feel as though I’m going to be an ‘ugly bride’ and no one on the day is going to tell me I’m pretty…
That all being said you want your girls to feel pretty and beautiful. I’ve allowed my girls to pick their own dresses so I don’t even know what they’re wearing. All you can do is try to realize you are beautiful. Do things for yourself, work out, get a facial or a mani/pedi and know that no matter how amazing your girls look that you will look even more beautiful, because it is the happiest day of your life!
Post # 10
vistagirl im no toothpick either and ommggggg i love your dress!
Post # 11
I think these are normal thoughts for a bride. But honestly, everyone will notice how happy and radiant you are. Don’t concentrate on how you look on the outside. True beauty comes from your attitude/confidence that night!
Post # 12
Please don’t worry about the height thing! I’m 5’3″ and the shortest person in our wedding party was 5’5″ and the talllest GM was 6’5″ – my hubs is 6’3″. EVERYONE towered over me in the pictures, but as the bride I was still the center of attention and felt amazing because I was surrounded by really tall people who love me A LOT!
No one is going to overshadow you on your day, so dress your BMs as you yourself would want to be dressed and make them look good too!
Post # 13
OK, I’m like the anti-bridezilla — I actually wanted to wear black for my dress. Even the Hubs voted that one down! But seems to me that there were some BM dresses that came in white/ivory. IF you like that look why not wear the dress in white/ivory and get your girls the dress in a color?
Post # 14
I want my BM’s to look georgous! Making them look bad wont make me look any better. As the bride, the attention will be on you regardless so dont worry about it.
Post # 15
Whenever I see girls in ugly bridesmaid dresses I just assume the bride has a terrible sense of style! Becareful if you go too ugly, people could think that about you!
Post # 16
I had the exact same issues. It doesn’t help to grow up with a gorgeous sister less than a year younger than you who dated all the popular guys in YOUR class in high school.
It’s ok to make their dresses less formal or more covered up if that helps you. If it’s a height thing too, make them wear flats. Pick out a single look and just tell them to get it, rather than giving them choice over it, that was my mistake. There are some styles that are trendy now that I think make even the skinniest girl look like she has giant hips–tulip shaped skirts, I think they’re called. Some have pockets. Try those if you like them. They’re cute, but unflattering, yet many people like to wear them.