Believe in Soulmates?

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2018

I do, but it will not necessarily be the moment you meet that person that you know. FI and I didn’t start dating until almost a year after we met, and a few months after that we knew we were meant for each other. Although I did have that tah dah moment before we were dating, when he and a few other friends were visiting my family and I when we were staying down the coast, I slept on the couch, they slept on mattresses on the floor, FI was the closest to me. I looked down at him sleeping, and I knew, just knew, that he was the one. A week after that we were together.

ETA: I only believe that there is one soulmate for each person. And that your soulmate, you are also their soulmate. So one day you will (or not) find each other. If they marry someone else, they didn’t marry their soulmate. If they move away, you’ll find each other again, if they die, that’s it. No more.

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

You mean in the sense that one person is perfect for you and no one else is? No. I’m a Christian but I don’t believe God guides our destiny that much. I believe there are many possible partners for everyone. Good thing too, because what if someone’s soul mate dies / marries someone else / moves interstate etc.

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@MissBethany5:  I believe in soulmates, but I also believe that we all have more than one soulmate out there.

I don’t believe that finding your soulmate is necessarily love at first sight.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I know that my H and I are meant to be together. I don’t know exactly what or who made us meant to be together but I really feel like we have been together for many, many years. I just knew since the moment we kissed and then looked into each others eyes for what might have been an hour. I can’t explain it but we both knew in that moment that we had found each other again. 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

Gah! I love this topic! I believe in soulmates but I also believe that you can be perfectly happy and content with someone that isn’t your soulmate. But I also believe that things happen for a reason. Personally, my parents were both serious with other people before they met each other, but if they hadn’t met, I wouldn’t exist. So I believe that it was meant to be like that.

I believe that I have met my soulmate. An entire day spent together feels like just a few hours. Time flies by so quickly. I still feel that spark when I kiss him that is scary but crazy intense. I love it. We’ve already managed to get through the hard stuff together and I completely trust him with all my heart. But I do believe that I could be happy and content with him if I hadn’t ever met him.

But I can’t imagine not meeting him at the same time! I felt an instant pull the second I saw him. But than I didn’t get his number or even his last name when we first met, so I thought I would never run into him again. I was in a different city at the time. A few weeks later, I ran into him again and I will never forget how I felt this big push like someone was pushing me on the back. Even though I would regularly never approach someone like that! We ended up going on our first official date exactly a month after the first time we saw each other. 

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2018

@happilyeveraftergirl:  Yeah you can definitely be happy and content with someone not your soulmate, I totally agree! But it is nowhere like being with your soulmate!

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

No.

i think the whole idea of a “Soulmate” is unhealthy.  I also think it’s mostly women who have this idea of finding “the one”.   

Do I believe you can meet someone and just know you want to spend the rest of your life with them, , no.   Relationships are hard work and people grow and change constantly.   

I think that the word and meaning can ruin relationships, or set someone’s standards too high.

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2018

@RockStar33:  The idea of soulmates and love at first sight are completely different. As I said before my FI is my soulmate, but did we realise it when we first met? Hell no lol. He also believes in soulmates by the way.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@Jacqui90:  What she said!

I believe in soulmates, but I do not in any way believe in “love at first sight” (book – cover, anyone?)

I do think you can be utterly happy with someone who isn’t your soulmate, and one should not hold out for unreasonably high expectations because that’s when what @RockStar33:  said happens.

That doesn’t mean that because I believe in soulmates that I think I would have always ended up with FI either, because it was “destiny” or anything else. There were a million decisions so far I could have made that would have ended or prohibited us from ever meeting. But I would be happy with someone else by now if that had happened, I believe I was lucky, rather than destined.

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Oh yes. We are both Christians and believe that God brought us together. I never would have dreamed I would  marry him one day. I have known him for years but he is 11 years older and I jogged with his little sister. one day he was preaching and my mom, who usually sings for alter call, had a sore throat so I had to do it and after wards she was like “wow if y’all ever got together… ” he started hanging at our house some and worked out with me and his sis. After like a week of knowing each other after he had been gone 4 years with the navy he informed me I would Become MrsH. I think I laughed. Lol. 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

@Jacqui90:  Agree agree agree! It can be great, and I’m sure plenty of people are happy doing it. I’ve been happy in relationships before that could have easily led to marriage. I’ve had men that wanted to marry me before, but things are completely different with my fiance. 

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Jacqui90:  yes, I know they are different.  I never said they were the same.  What’s different to me is “finding your soulmate” And choosing to love someone every day because you want to, not because of some force of nature.

I also think that no one needs another person to complete them.  That’s saying you are not a whole person and it’s kind of silly.    

 

Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2018

@RockStar33:  Agree to disagree, I think you can still be a whole person while having someone who ‘completes you’

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Jacqui90:  well the whole idea of a soulmate is to find your other half.  The other half of your soul.

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