Post # 1
My hubby and I celebrated our 1-year anniversary about 3 weeks ago. For the last month or so, we’ve been thinking and talking very seriously about when we want to try to have our first child.
My husband wanted to start on our 1-year anniversary. I suggested my birthday (August 14th). Then I suggested our second anniversary (11 months from now). As I pushed futher back, something inside of me has not been at peace. I am at peace about WANTING to start, yes! But not the timing of it. Now I am back to a place where I think maybe we could start trying right now.
All financial, age-related, emotional, and mental considerations aside – we believe we are ready, but we need peace. I need peace, really. I want to feel that sense of calm that will accompany a joy to begin trying.
So bees – please pray for me! I believe in the power of prayer. Pray for peace and clarity as to what timing feels right for us. We will wait no later than 11 months, but it might be as soon as 3 days that I come off birth control! Ha!
Thanks for listening, bees. 🙂
Post # 2
Make sure you are as healthy as you can be before trying for a baby.
Plenty of exercise and sleep.
Make sure your rubella injection is up to date.
Take foods containing folic acid.
See your doctor for the best advice.
Give up alcohol.
Do this for 3 months and then come off contraception.
Then just be the healthiest mother-to-be that you can be. That is all that is required. 🙂
Post # 3
Not anywhere close to this phase, but awww, what a special time! I’ll be holding you and hubby up in Prayer! I’m sure you will make an excellent mother 🙂
Post # 4
I’ve heard that you should be off of your birth control for a little bit of time before you get pregnant. Have you spoken with your doctor yet?
Post # 5
Prayers! But please know that anxiety about this is completely normal, too. I didn’t feel that I would ever be “ready” 100%, so we just decided to see what happened/NTNP. Well now I’m pregnant, and we are SO excited, but I STILL have moments or days where I’m incredibly anxious about it all.
Post # 6
I said a prayer for you. You two will figure it out!
Post # 7
I’m a mother of a bride so it’s been a long time since I was in your shoes, nearly 26 years since we started trying for our first baby after waiting for 6 years. We finally decided there would never be a perfect set of circumstances and we just had to trust God to help us have the family He wanted us to have. Looking back, I remember feeling a bit like newlyweds again as we started on the adventure of making a baby who would be part of each of us, a continuation of our family lines, but a unique and precious soul created by God. We’ve raised two beautiful daughters, one of whom is now married and will one day be where you are at this moment.
I will certainly pray for peace for you and your husband as you launch out into new waters in the days ahead. One of my favorite Scripture passages regarding peace is in Philippians 4:7, 8. “Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.” Our pastor has been focusing his messages on this chapter the past few weeks due to many trying events in the lives of our church families. The idea of replacing anxiety with prayer as a means to peace in my heart and mind has meant so much to me as I face treatment for breast cancer in the coming weeks. God’s peace is available to all His children in any circumstances who will trust Him to do what is best. Hope this helps.
Post # 8
Other things that have occurred to me:
Make sure you have had enough time just as a couple. I don’t know how old you are but if you are 21 then you maybe need more time. If you are 37 then it is a completely different matter.
The spirituality comes from realising that you don’t get a baby but a person who is completely unique.
Post # 9
TogetherThroughLife: Praying for you, OP. God’s timing is perfect. I pray that you are in peace about whatever you and your DH decide.
cookecutter51: The scripture you posted is one of my personal favorites. I am praying for you also and believing God for your total healing. God bless you.
Post # 10
cookecutter51: Thank you for your encouraging words. I feel like I’m hearing my own mother speak. What a blessing!
Thanks to ALL of you. I had nearly forgotten I even made this post until today. My husband and I were talking about it all again last night and I will most likely come off birth control next month. I am very healthy with zero bad habits so I’m not concerned about needing to “get things in order” so to speak. Thank you all for the continued prayers as we think about starting this new chapter. 🙂