Post # 1
A while ago, I posted a poll on current wedding dress trends–which ones will our children cringe at, and which ones will people still respect even once they’re gone out of style? (Example: 80s poofy sleeves–people today laugh at them. Grace Kelly’s dress–not current style, but pretty much universally respected as a classy choice for the time period.) Belts and sashes (you know, these sorts of waist decorations https://www.google.com/search?q=wedding+belt+and+sash&safe=active&espv=210&es_sm=93&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ei=3PdDU_OuKYm4yQGynYCgCA&ved=0CAgQ_AUoAQ&biw=1366&bih=667#q=wedding%20belt&safe=active&tbm=isch) did not fare well on the post. Most people put them in the “80’s puffy sleeves, your kids will think you were insane” category.
Personally, I’m not a huge fan of belts, either. But one of my frontrunner dresses kind of needs one, so I just want to verify that it would be a horrible, you-will-look-back-in-20-years-and-question-your-sanity kind of decision to have one, before I rule out the dress. What do you think?
Post # 2
I’m not worried about how my dress will date! It’s the dress that makes me feel beautiful & like a bride & I think that’s all that matters! all the dresses I’ve tried on have either had a sash or i would add one xx
Post # 3
Winterbride_England: That’s wonderful for you. 🙂
Let’s stay on-topic, though.
Post # 4
sunflower22: I think a lot of us think our dresses are/were timeless, but I honestly have a feeling that most people in the 80s did too. My mom’s dress didn’t have puffy sleeves, but it did have full length sleeves and something unplaceable about it that looks very 80s. It would probably be considered ‘timeless’ by a lot of people (it even looked a little like Kate Middleton’s – but an early 1980s Kate Middleton), but it still also looks dated. I can easily tell she got married in 1980 not just by her dress, but by the styling of the entire wedding – the hair, what her sister/BM was wearing, the church decor, etc.. My wedding dress was pretty ‘classic’ (A-line, silk, sweatheart neckline, strapless, no belt, no pickups, no bling) and yet in 30 years I bet people will look at it and say, “That’s so 2000s”.
We generally like what is currently fashionable. That’s why it’s currently fashionable. Belts are in right now. Some dresses are greatly improved by belts/sashes. I don’t see fear-of-it-looking-dated as a reason not to choose them. Your wedding *will* be dated, that’s just how weddings are. Heck, look at Princess Diana’s wedding dress – and she was a bastion of good taste. Egads, what were they thinking, right? It’s pretty rare that anyone dodges that.
Get what you like, not what you think your kids or grandkids will like when they’re adults. Predicting how fashion will age is not a necessary part of picking a dress.
Post # 5
I’ll add a question.
For those of you who do find belts on wedding dresses horrible, what is it about them that you hate so much?
(For example, if you find the blinginess over the top, then I’ll know to look for ones that aren’t blingy. If you think colored sashes that are too matchy-matchy with the bridesmaids are trite or tacky, then I’ll know not to go that route.) What are the specific problems with belts?
Post # 6
Again, the question is not “will they look dated?”
OF COURSE they will look dated. So will every single other thing about weddings today–that’s how trends work.
BUT…there’s dated in the “vintage, classy, I wouldn’t choose it today, but I still respect the decision to choose it back then” way…and then there’s dated in the “What was she THINKING?!?” way. Most bees (unless it was a seriously skewed sample on that particular day, which is possible), put belts in the second category.
The on-topic questions to answer are: Are you among the majority of bees who think that belts are tacky and horrible? Is there a specific element that you find particularly offensive?
Post # 7
sunflower22: Good design is good design is good design, regardless of whether or not it will be associated with a particular period of time. If you have an elegant dress with beautiful lines, and the right belt or sash will complete the look (but not COMPETE WITH it), you will be fine.
However, I’ve seen a couple of threads where a bee will insist upon adding a belt to a dress design that has so many other things going on that the belt does not complete or enhance the overall look of the dress but, rather, detracts from it.
Post # 8
1) Was the dress designed to have a belt? If yes, proceed to 2. If no, proceed to 3.
2) Do you like how the dress looks with the belt? If yes, proceed to 4. If no, proceed to 5.
3) You probably shouldn’t wear a belt.
4) Wear the belt.
5) Find another dress.
Post # 9
sunflower22: I am not a fan of belts or sashes. I feel that the look is completely overdone which is why I chose not to wear one. Every wedding I have been to in the last two years, the bride wore a belt/sash. In many cases, the belt/sash really took away from the dress.
I am also not a fan of the prices of these belts. Hundreds of dollars for a belt that can only be worn once???????
Post # 10
sunflower22: I didn’t like sashes/belts because to me, its something to hold pants up, and dresses don’t need that. haha. BUT. The dress I happen to have bought comes with a belt, and would look too incredibly plain without it. My dress is really, and I mean REALLY simple, so the belt makes it a bit more fancy.
Also, I want to say that belts are WAY overdone, and I generally don’t like to stick with ‘trends,’ but I have actually only ever seen brides with belts on TV or on the Bee. Not a single bride I’ve seen in person has had a belt.
So yeah, I was an anti-belt bride, and now I’m wearing one. haha
Post # 11
californiabride2013: Lol, read my last comment. I was totally with you for a while about belts. But I got a $25 dress that came with a belt (and it was a VERY simple dress, so the belt helped make it a bit more fancy). So I didn’t have the extra cost for my belt 🙂
Post # 12
sunflower22: You’re not getting the answers you’re looking for, because you’re asking something no one could possibly know. Don’t you think in the 80’s plenty of people thought those trendy poofy sleeves were the shizzz and they knew for sure their future daughter would love to wear such a gorgeous creation? You’re asking about a current trend that could very well seem stupid in the future, but you never know. If I had to guess, I would think that it’s something that will seem very early 2000’s, but wouldn’t necessarily be offensive. I don’t think its obnoxious enough to qualify as offensive like a poofed shoulder with dangly beads a la my 1990 Barbie bride. I think gowns are elegant all by themselves, and I’m not a fan of cutting my body in half to add some style when I could look long and flowy and whatnot, but there are so many cool pretty sashes out there that it’s like…whatever who gives a ….
Post # 13
I very much dislike belts or sashes. I think it’s because, IMO, if you need one it means that there is something wrong with the dress. for example, I see a lot of brides with Ill-fitting lace dresses add a sash in the hopes it will make them look smaller around the middle. I also see a lot of brides choosing coloured sashes to make them “look more unique” but to me they just made the whole thing look out of whack. I also personally don’t like a lot of bling… But also If you love bling you should just buy a dress with bling. Don’t buy a cheap nothing dress and then add a super blingy belt to it. Looks cheesy to me.
Im sure there are exceptions to what I just said, for instance, if the designer designed the dress with a belt It has a better chance of looking good.
obviously all of this is totally just my opinion and frankly I do think I am in a small minority since most people seem to like them. Hope I didn’t offend anyone’s dress… Really the thing that makes dresses look the best is when the bride loves her dress, so thats the most important!
Post # 14
sunflower22: What I don’t like is that… a dress isn’t doing to fall down or lack tailoring of some description, ergo a belt looks a little silly. It’s like a vestigial limb or something. Plus, I’m not a fan of shiny tat being slapped on an otherwise lovely sillhouette. It’s a bit like putting blue eyeshadow on Mona Lisa (Okay, she’s not all that hot anyway, but I think it makes my point). Superfluous guilding of the lily, if you will. Of course, nothing about a wedding dress needs to be functional, but there’s something about bling belts that seems redonkadonk.
MOHlookingForIdeas: All the plusses.
Post # 15
sunflower22: I think it will depend on the style of the belt that will make one’s future daughter exclaim “EW! MOM! WHY DID YOU WEAR THAT?” or “Mom, I want to look classy and beautiful like you in my future wedding.” I do think there are some sashes/belts out there are could be considered timless/classy. But I also think there are some out there that are just trendy for now. I don’t think it’s all encompassing one way or the other.