(Closed) best advice for parents of a 5 day old?

posted 5 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

Just remember, no matter what time it is, or how old you get, you can always call your Mom….Mom’s are awesome like that.

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

First off- Congratulations!

If the baby is sleeping, Mom should be sleeping. You will never be more tired than you will be in the next 2 months.

Now get off the net and go have a nap. LOL

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Take pictures- you’ll be surprised how much they will grow in just a week or so!

 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@eeniebeans:  +1 You won’t even realize it until you go back and look at the pictures.

Other than that, it passes.  There has been more than once where I felt so incredibly desperate because she wouldn’t stop crying, or she wouldn’t stop eating or I just felt like the worst Mom in the world.  

But here we are, 10 months later (and I can’t believe it’s been that long) and just this morning she was pointing to kitties in a book when I asked her where they were, and giggling when I buckled her in the car, and I barely remember that blur of days and nights where I thought “Good God, what have I DONE?”

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper

Enjoy this time as they grow up WAY too fast!

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Congratulations!!

1. When the baby is asleep, you should either a.) take a nap or b.) take a long, hot shower and shave your legs. Both will make you feel better and more refreshed.

2. You cannot take too many pictures. You just can’t.

3. Sometimes its hard. Sometimes you just have to cry with your baby. It’s okay. It will get better.

4. It’s always okay to ask for help. Seriously, work smarter and not harder. Delegate some of your day to day tasks. This is especially helpful in the begining when you’re still getting your barrings.

5. Enjoy every moment of it! One day you’ll bend down to kiss your little one goodbye and he’ll be too busy trying to catch up to his friends walking in school to even notice so you’ll be left on the sidewalk all alone…. at least that’s what happened to me this morning, anyway! haha

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Hm, I feel like I’m still in the thick of things, but just getting out of the haze (my son is 2 months).

While it is important to nap when you can, I also hated that advice a little bit. In the early days, all my guy did was eat and sleep (usually eat), so if I slept when he slept, I felt very much like walking boobs and struggled to enjoy the time. Sometimes I sacrificed a nap for some time with my husband or on my computer, and it helped me feel more human, even if I had only slept 3 hours.

I failed to have any sort of structure to our day, letting little guy sleep and eat and “play” whenever. I just started an eat, play, sleep rotation and it is making our lives so much easier. He is doing great and has started sleeping way better at night. If you are interested, I’ll give you a bit more info.

TiVo stuff you really like and save it for when you’re up late feeding. It almost made me want to get up at night (almost).

Don’t feel bad about eating fast food. Give yourself permission to eat easy and fast for at least a month. I’m just now able to count on enough time to cook (although my mother was around so she made lots of meals).

Find a group of moms–a breastfeeding support or new moms or whatever group. It’s so nice to have someone to share things with, and now the moms I met are potential play dates, and we’re planning on taking walks (at the mall for now, but later outside) with kiddos.

Never get too excited about a good sleep schedule–it will inevitably change. That same advice is helpful in reverse, don’t get too down about a bad one, it will change, too.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Oh, and if you’re nursing, put serious effort into getting side lying to work. It felt super awkward for me at first, and then we had a lot of issues breastfeeding and I had to use a nipple shield and couldn’t do it, but we just started and it is heaven not to get out of bed every time I feed (plus I can feed and then make DH diaper change.)

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2005

take pictures, pictures and more pictures.  Sleep as often as your child does because during the next few months you’ll be up all hours of the night.  XD  enjoy it all.  Every small victory is a victory, my husband often complains that our 5 month old ONLY took a 15 minute nap…..I freakin celebrate if she takes a 15 minute nap.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Definitely take pictures, at least one a day. I remember looking back even at two months and being like “That is not the same baby!” 

Rest! I didn’t do the sleeping when baby is thing a lot but I would have a sit down, read trashy mags, drink calming teas. 

Accept that your hormones are MENTAL right now. If you cry when you can’t put your shoe on – it’s okay. This is what it will be like for a while. I would wake up in the night in a completely irrational state of mind and in the morning be absolutely fine. Everything is haywire so just take it easy. There is a reason why they say not to make any important decisions for the first 6 months (I would say a year from my experience!)

ENJOY your baby! I know you feel like you’re always feeding them, changing them, rocking them but enjoy it. When you feel tense or stressed by it, cuddle them close, smell their hair, kiss the soft bit behind their ear and just love them. It’s hard work but it is so worth it.

 

Also remember there’s always people on here who have been through it and will help if you haven’t got anyone to talk to. 🙂

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@Snowden:  Oh,yeah, the hormone thing!

Our first day home from the hospital, I asked DH for a drink of water (he had been super attentive throughout the WHOLE pregnancy.)  He either didn’t hear me or he got distracted by DD, so he didn’t even acknowledge that I’d spoken, and I burst into real ugly tears about how now that he had his baby out he didn’t need me anymore, and he was replacing me with her.

He totally gave me the side eye after that and for the next few days he brought me more water than I could possibly drink.  It was a week or two before they calmed back down.  

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