Best Age For Marriage?

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
  • poll: What is the best age to get married?
    Under 20. : (2 votes)
    1 %
    20-25 : (33 votes)
    22 %
    25+ : (97 votes)
    64 %
    30 or older. : (19 votes)
    13 %
  • Post # 3
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @TakeTwo:  I think that every relationship is different and you can’t judge when someone should be married based on their age. There are some young 20 somethings who have experienced more in life than some 30 year olds. In my experience, it isn’t the age but the road you traveled. 

    I’m 23 and just got married. I’ve been working since I was 14. I have been independent since I was probably 16. I recently graduated college and I’m now attending graduate school. I’ve worked many jobs, gone so many places, met so many people and learned so much. I’m sure there are plenty of others out there like me.

    I’ve known girls who didn’t start working until they were 21 or 22. Then stopped working when they got married and became house wives at 27 or 28. What kind of experience is that?

     

    Post # 4
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    4698 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    There is no universal best age. Whenever you’re ready personally and as a couple. For some people, that’s 18. For others, it’s 50. Or never, Or anywhere in between. I don’t think it’s really fair to say that one age is objectively better than any other because individual situations vary so widely.

    Post # 5
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    1904 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014 - TTC #2

    Yet another post like this ::rolls eyes::

    As we have all concluded from the last 50-or-so posts like this, there is no ‘best age for marriage’.

    As long as you are financially secure and emotionally ready, go for it.

    No one can choose when they meet Mr. Right, it might be at 16 (do they will likely marry young) or it might be at 35 (an will marry late 30s).

     

    Post # 6
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    1904 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014 - TTC #2

    @mylittleviolett:  “it isn’t the age but the road you traveled.”

    I really like that quote and feel I can personally identify. Thanks!

    Post # 7
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    3787 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Honestly, the original post comes off extremely judgemental and patronizing. I’m going to assume you didn’t mean for it to sound like that. 

    It really comes down to “Different strokes.” I think it’s important to get married when you really think you are ready for it emotionally, financially, etc. Generally, I don’t think it’s any of my concern what other people do and I’m not personally in their relationship. I’m not there every day, day in and day out to really know what they’re like and whether it’s a good time to get married. And I certainly know people who were much older (35-40) and it was very obvious to me that the people in question shouldn’t get married. I got married when I was ready, and when I really felt that my relationship was extremely strong after many, MANY conversations about the marriage we both wanted, our new family values, and our long term goals as a couple, individuals and as a family.

    You do what works for you. 

    Post # 8
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    359 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I said 30 and over because I am 33 and my husband is 38 and we just got married….neither of us were in a rush, we bought a house first then got married July 6th…

     

    I think it depends on where you are in life……we wanted less debt before marriage…..and now we are comfortable without money worries…..so it worked for us….

    Post # 9
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    2124 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @MrsYoshida:  You’re welcome! See there are other people out there like me 🙂 

    Post # 11
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    134 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    im 22 and marrying next year.

     

    I have only been with my FI for 18 months but when you know, you know right? We didnt see the point in waiting, we both know we will marry so why wait until we are older? what diference does it make. My FI is 28 but i do get a lot of ‘oh you are so young’ but i will always be with him so what difference does it make?

    Post # 14
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    441 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2013 - Garden

    I’m 23 and nobody has told me that I’m too young to get married. Everyone is different. I don’t think you can really judge if somebody is ready when you’re on the outside looking in. I don’t know how close you are to your cousin, but I’ve been living away from my family for the last 3 years and to be perfectly honest I don’t think my cousins or my aunts would know me well enough to make that call.

    I’ve always thought it would be nice to marry young and start a family while I was young.

    Post # 15
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    38 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I understand your point of view but I really don’t think that there’s a BEST age for marriage because everyone has different life experiences and matures at different times.

    Sure, it is important to be mature, realistic, financially stable, know who you are, and know what you want out of life before entering marriage, but that can happen at any age. I got engaged at 22 and will be married by 24. I don’t think we’re too young and neither do our families even though our parents married a bit older.

    Plus people go through different life experiences. I personally feel like I have lived a lot of life in my 22 years. I lost my dad at 15, had to grow up a lot, got a bachleors degree, going on to get my doctorate now, studied abroad in Africa, and had jobs. We’ve been together 3.5 years and my fiance and I have done a lot of reserach and made sure that we were getting married for the right reasons other than just love alone (we love each other beyond what words could describe). He also has a great job now and can financially support us.

    Everyone is ready at different times depending on the situation. So I can’t say there’s the “best” age to get married at.

     

    Post # 16
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    197 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Everyone is different and I do not judge anyone who chooses otherwise, but for me I think ideal age of marriage is late twenties nowadays.  Complete college, work a couple of years in your field (maybe try different careers), pursue a graduate degree, get established, date around, travel, be young and learn more about yourself. For me, even at 27 I did not feel ready to get married even though I loved my DH, lived with him and wanted to be with him forever. It really wasn’t until I hit 28 that something suddenly clicked and I felt ready… it was quite weird 🙂 But I was not someone who dreamt about being a bride or wanted to have babies before age 30, so I may be in the minority!

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