- 3 years ago
- Wedding: September 2015
So, FI and I have been struggling lately, I’m not going to lie. We suffered a really bad financial hit at the beginning of last summer causing us both to move back in with each of our parents across the state, leaving behind any hint of a social life. We’d been having problems, mostly about money. Upon moving back home, he found a great job, in his field, that paid him really well. Over time, he’d hint at being able to move in together and telling me to start looking at apartments, then say that it wouldn’t be possible until he got full-time or until he had X saved up, etc. I was getting frustrated because, knowing our finances, I knew we could afford an apartment and living apart was really putting added strain on our relationship. I’d get upset because I’d see him spend tons of money on comics and war gaming minis, when it could have gone towards the downpayment on a place for us to live or towards the wedding, etc. Not that I didn’t want him to have fun, it just seemed, outwardly, that nothing was being done to help move us towards a future independent of our parents. (Please note: I’m the poor one in the relationship. If he says he’s not ready to get an apartment, I can’t afford to do it without him.)
Well, today was our 5 year anniversary and while out to dinner, he hands me an envelope and says for me to open it. I figure it’s just a card. Well, inside was a bank statement. He’d been putting off moving out in order to save that money and now, with over a year to go, he has single-handedly saved up enough money to fund our entire wedding. I was floored. Not only that, but he’d also begun looking at apartments and, since he’s been officially brought on fulltime, salaried, at his work, he’s thinking we’ll be able to move out next month. He wants to go look at apartments this weekend.
I’m ashamed of the way I’d acted and feel terrible for doubting him at all. I’m just so amazed that he managed to do this. He never really gave the impression that he cared about the wedding at all, so to see that he’d been working and saving up for it really puts it into perspective for me. Saving up is the hardest part of planning a wedding, I think, and all by himself, he set us up to be able to plan everything worry-free. I’m truly lucky. He’s an amazing man.