Best cities for CBC couples?

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I imagine you’ll get roughly the same mix in any city unless you start looking for a more youthful one (which is not the same as CBC city).  Boston for example is a “young” city with a lot of college students, grad students and young professionals.  Or look for a more urban city and less at cities with suburbia sprawl.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee

I don’t know, but I’ve been babysitting for my sister in law for the past couple days and I want to off myself. The kid is a sweetheart, but the constant chatter and wanting to play is making me insane. Good thing I knew I am CBC because I would go insane if I had one of my own.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee

@soontobemrsm11:  Now I really know I’m CBC (not that I ever doubted it), because she’s a really great, smart, funny kid and she is making me insane. I have a headache, and she keeps touching me with her sticky hands. She’s 3 1/2, btw. She wants to blow bubbles outside, have me read trillions of books, go outside and look for rocks, play with the dollhouse, paint rocks, make up songs, play tag, and on and on. I am bored to tears. I told her I have to work on the computer, which is how I escaped to vent. If her mother was here, she’d be asleep, but her mom drags out every little errand to get more time away.

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@soontobemrsm11:  What makes you think SF isn’t a place you’d like to live? That might help narrow things down. 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@soontobemrsm11:  If too much cement bothers you, NYC is not the place for you. 🙂 They don’t call it “concrete jungle” for nothing. When you say Upstate NY, do you mean suburbs like Westchester or out in the sticks? I personally like Upstate NY (my SO’s parents live there), but it can be too rural for some.

 

If you do like being close to the city, then northern NJ could also be a good spot for you – Hoboken is climbing up to Manhattan prices and super congested, but places like Weehawken, West New York, Edgewater, Guttenberg give you good bang for your buck and are only a 10-20 minute bus ride from Manhattan.

ETA: The SO and I are CBC at the moment, but will probably have kids after marriage. However, we do NOT under any circumstances want to have kids in the NYC/NJ area (where we are living now). The public schools are a joke, private schools are prohibitively expensive on top of the high cost of living. If we didn’t want to have kids – another story. Once I am done with grad school, we are eyeing the Dallas, TX area to start up our real lives.

 

Post # 11
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Helper bee

Not sure what would constitute a good city for CBC couples, and I’m CBC! I always figured the point was that instead of choosing based on school districts and where you can afford a gazillion-bedroom house, we can choose based on individual things that have nothing to do with how many families with kids there are.

Currently we live in a suburban area that actually has tons of families with kids. We picked it because we wanted good weather (my SO is picky about that too), a backyard (what’s the point of good weather if you don’t go outside?), and lots of companies in my job industry. I’m sure it wouldn’t make an official list for CBC couples, but if we went by lists of what’s best for “demographically similar individuals”, we’d also have frickin’ kids, wouldn’t we? 😉

So, on a broad regional level, the whole fun is indulging your personal preferences. Housing prices, weather, state government, prominent job industries, proximity to art museums or music venues, whatever matters to you. Then once you’ve narrowed it down to one area, look for the lousy school districts because you can sometimes get a sweet place for hundreds of thousands of dollars less.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

I live outside of DC, and there are pockets that are very CBC friendly. The swankier parts of any city, where the cost of living is higher, the apartments/houses/yards smaller, and less access to high quality schools, are all going to be more CBC. In DC, I find that the really high end areas (Georgetown, Adams Morgan, Rosslyn) are much more CBC friendly than some of the more spread out and “up and coming” areas like Eastern Market, south Arlington, and out west in the VA suburbs. It’s like you can’t go anywhere there without there being a gaggle of kids with their yuppie parents in tow.

 

Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I think you should focus on where you want to live rather than saying “is this a CBC friendly city??”   Just as cities can be made child-friendly if parents want them to be, a city can also be CBC-friendly if you want it to be.  

 

For a city that is awesome, but also has a lot of green, you might want to consider Philadelphia.  I lived in West Philadelphia, and my apartment building (which was built in 1905 as a single family home and converted into 5 apartments) looked right out onto a huge sycamore.  There are parks and green spaces all over the city if you live in the right area.  

Here is a picture of my old street:

And here is Center City:

Post # 16
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

No no no no no haha

San Francisco has an AMAZING amount of green space. And if you don’t want to live next to Golden Gate Park, the Presidio, etc etc there’s always the Berkeley hills, Oakland hills, Marin county, etc. All of which have more dogs than children several folds over. We go hiking at Lands End all the time! And the beaches are so beautiful! So much to do outdoors in the city.

I am not a huge fan of children, but I guess I don’t understand needing to be in a special city where children aren’t – can you elaborate? I’d love to learn more. So few people talk about it and i’m so curious!

 

 

 

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