Post # 1
My FI & tentatively decided last night that we would like to do a destination wedding in Mexico. My family is from the east coast of the US; his family is from Mexico. We figured if we did it in one or the other of our home town’s, it would lead to a very skewed guest list (really high on one side and low on the other). So we thought doing a DW at a resort in Mexico would be a good blend: more of my family and friends have the financial ease to travel and there are no visas required for Mexico; his family and friends won’t have to go through the hassle of getting US visas, but will still have to travel about six hours if they really want to attend the wedding, which will cut down on having to invite people he is not super close with.
Now the tough part is deciding a date. We definitely want a 2012 wedding. I envision people arriving on a Friday afternoon and doing a welcome dinner/rehearsel dinner Friday night; having the wedding on Saturday; and having a brunch and organized activities on Sunday, and people could leave on Monday.
I think it would facilitate people’s lives if we did it over a holiday weekend (but not a big holiday where people might want to be with family). Since not all holidays are the same in the US and Mexico, I am more inclined to look for a US holiday weekend since my guests will be traveling further.
I am thinking:
– Probably not July – October (rainy/hurricane season)
– Either of these holiday weekends:
- MLK holiday weekend (January) / It would be nice for people to escape from the snow & cold but I would be worried about airport delays, plus not everyone gets this holiday.
- Presidents day weekend (February) – same as above
- Memorial Day (May) – Most everyone does get this holiday, May would be nice although getting a bit hot in Mexico
- Easter weekend – not everyone has off, but I know my FI’s family probably will, most of the schools do and I have some friends and relatives who teach. Afraid it will run into Spring Break and be too crazy though. So probably not…
- I am hesitant to do it over Thanksgiving or Christmas, since friends probably wouldn’t want to be away from their families. Thoughts?
Or I could just pick any date and hope for people to take two vacation days to attend. It IS extra expensive to rent a villa over a major holiday, which we want to do. And flights are usually more expensive. The low season starts in April at a lot of places so…maybe just a random weekend?
How did you ever pick a date when deciding on a DW?
Post # 3
the biggest advice i got about picking a date for a destinaton wedding was NOT to do it on holiday weekends! prices for travel go way up!
i ended up picking mid-April. for people who are staying a full week, they are coming back the day before easter. i checked prices of plane tickets with all my options and there was not much difference so i went with it.
i also chose mid-April because that’s when the prices start to go down after the march break madness.
Post # 4
I would vote if everyone has to travel, do not pick a holiday weekend.
Airline prices skyrocket, hotel prices go up, rental car prices go up, and taking one day off around a holiday is always in demand so it may actually be harder for some working people to take that day off if their office needs to be staffed.
I’d vote pick a non-holiday weekend and people will take the days off to come and maybe make a longer vacation out of it.
Post # 5
Thanks! Ok – so definitely NOT a holiday. Good to know. I guess we will just pick a date far off in advance & hope as many as our loved ones can plan to take the time off to attend!
Post # 5
I’m doing a DW and at first we had the same question. After a lot of research I found out that most all-inclusive resorts are way more expensive over holidays, especially Christmas/NYE. If you’re not worried about costs than I think it’s a great idea.
We wanted things to be affordable for our guest so we switched gears from a NYE wedding to a wedding this April. It’s going to be almost half the price for our guests. Also, I know at a few resorts (and the one we are being married at) it’s $400-$600 less to get married Mon-Wed. We’re going to be in Mexico so we ended up planning the wedding for a Tuesday because people are already going to have the whole week booked off anyway. It’s not like being back home and expecting people to attend a wedding that isn’t on a Friday or Saturday so we went with the flexibility that a DW offered us and in the end we’re saving about $1000 for doing it on a Tuesday and our preferred venue was more readily availble.
Post # 6
- Wedding: December 2010 - Al Cielo / La Laguna
Look into what is considered off season for the area. We went one week before high season started and things were so affordable and quite. Also if your looking on the east coast becareful of hurricane season.
Post # 7
I agree with not the holiday weekend because airfare goes way up, but then people already have an extra vacation day. So, I can see the lure of a holiday weekend too. We did something similar to meerkat in that we looked for what is the “offseason” because the hotel prices are cheaper and more reasonable. We are getting married at the beginning of May in Grand Cayman. It seems prices dropped May 1, so we went with May 7. :o) I also think the airfare is a little better then, but it is a bummer that people do not get an extra vacation day to use.