Post # 1
So, in the shuffle one of the gifts lost it’s card and I have no idea who gave it to us. All the unattached cards had gift cards in them, so I can’t easily guess which goes with the gift. I have an inkling who gave it to us, but I don’t know the best way to go about asking them “Hey did you get us this thing?”. It’s also a duplicate gift, so I don’t want to do it publicly and have either party embarrased that they got us the same gift.
So, any ideas on the best ettiquite to find out who gave us a gift (that is also a duplicate)?
Post # 3
Maybe look at your guest lost and see who doesn’t have a gift accounted for. That would be a good start at least
Post # 4
Check the guest list and see who gave. Also did anyone assist you in writting/keeping track of gifts ? Maybe they can remember?
Post # 5
The gift card in it makes it tricky. I’d be more inclined to think the gift didn’t have a card attached to it, rather than they got you both a gift and a gift card. Unless it was a relatively small gift?
Assuming you’ve already looked at the guest list and narrowed it down based on the other gifts, I would just call the person who you think it might be from and ask them, “Hey Mary, this is kind of weird but some of the cards and gifts at the wedding got separated when they were being brought to the house. I want to make sure I can thank everyone properly, and this seemed like it might have been from you – in addition to the gift card, did you also happen to give us X?”
If I’m reading right, the person you think it is also gave you a gift card, so there’s no embarrassment for them to say no (because you aren’t point out they didn’t get you a gift if they say no). Am I following?
We had a situation where I thanked someone for something they didn’t give us! There were these two tupperware type containers just loose on the gift table and our coordinator stuck them in the closest bag that they looked like they came from. To be fair, she did give us a heads up they had been loose. We thanked the person whose bag they were in, done and done.
The other day we opened up the containers to use them, and the GUY (an engineer) that had given them to us had just stuck his business card inside them!! LOL! (They had labels on them so we couldn’t see the business card when unwrapping.)
I just texted the friend and was like, “Hey, don’t think we’re crazy, we just realized those weren’t from you – but we love the other stuff.” And then sent a new thank you onto crazy business card guy.
Post # 6
I feel your pain / concern.
Especially as you clearly are trying to do the right thing.
We had this happen to us… we were able to track it down to the Gift Giver because we recalled the wrapping paper, and made a few subtle inquiries that way (then again we had a friend who was manning the Gift Table… so when I said “Did you see who brought in the large box with the purple ribbon & huge bow”… they remembered.
Infact it turns out that either the Card got lost permanently (which I doubt)… or the Giver just didn’t bother to get us a card (strange, but I’ve discovered it happens).
When we had our Couple’s Shower, there were several gifts given to us without a card… thank goodness I was opening them then & there… and so knew exactly what items came from who. If giving gifts without a card is a “new thing” it needs to stop… huge headache. I’m guessing that the Givers tho were just too dang lazy to go to the store and buy one.
8-} *rolls eyes*
Etiquette exists for a reason folks… it makes EVERYONE’s life easier / more pleasant.