My best friend has been busy at work the past 2 months (it is not out of character for her to go 'dark' during the spring) So after my F and I desided who we wanted to ask to be in our wedding party, I waited 6 weeks to ask my best friend, and then she said no.
I feel like I got dumped like a ton of bricks. I had no doubt as to who I wanted as MOH, just how many other friends I wanted in the party. My F and I have already asked the other 2 bridesmaids and 3 guys to be in our wedding. (and all agreed)
I did take my BF wedding dress shopping with me once before she went into busy season at her job. My wedding is less then 4 mo away and I need to pick bridesmaids dresses and order them soon, but I thought I would have imput and a shopping buddy for this.
I like both the other bridesmaids, but I am unsure about asking either of them to be MOH. Would it be crazy weird just not to have a MOH?
I might just go with the 2 bridesmaids and 3 guys we've got. Or I would possibly ask 2 other girls to be in the wedding party, and then we still might have uneven sides.
Any ideas of how to have uneven numbers of guys and girls line up in a wedding party?
I don't think there's anything wrong with having uneven sides. If FI and I were having a bridal party our sides would be uneven. We're having a destination wedding and originally I was to have 2 bridesmaids and he would have 1-2 groomsmen, but most likely one. Well, now we're not sure if his one groomsman can make it to the wedding (travel to our wedding is pretty costly) and I didn't feel right having 2 girls stand by me and no one stand by him. So...we nixed the whole bridal party idea. That way we have no worries. It'll just be him and I at the alter.
Anyways, I got off subject. hehe. I see no problem with you having 2 (or 4) girlies by you and FI having 3. I'd rather have the most important people standing with me than "fillers" to make the numbers even.
If you have a sister or another very close relative, you might ask her. You could even ask your mom to be matron of honor. Honestly, MOH is a big responsibility and it's not something you should ask just anyone to do. If there's no one else you feel is close enough to you to be MOH, I would say don't have one and don't worry about the asymmetry--IMO weddings are about substance foremost, not style. Not that style is unimportant! Just not the most important thing.
I personally don't see anything wrong with having uneven sides. My cousin had 6 bridesmaids and 12 groomsmen!! They worked it out so that all of the groomsmen stood in the ceremony but only half sat at the head table during the reception...the other half were married and sat with their wives.
Your wedding should be about you and the people most important to you should have the job of standing at your sides. If this means that you have uneven numbers, so be it! Once you decide the number on each side, you can find creative ways to make it so that walking down the aisle, pictures, etc looked "balanced."
My best friend has been busy at work the past 2 months (it is not out of character for her to go 'dark' during the spring) So after my F and I desided who we wanted to ask to be in our wedding party, I waited 6 weeks to ask my best friend, and then she said no.
I feel like I got dumped like a ton of bricks. I had no doubt as to who I wanted as MOH, just how many other friends I wanted in the party. My F and I have already asked the other 2 bridesmaids and 3 guys to be in our wedding. (and all agreed)
I did take my BF wedding dress shopping with me once before she went into busy season at her job. My wedding is less then 4 mo away and I need to pick bridesmaids dresses and order them soon, but I thought I would have imput and a shopping buddy for this.
I like both the other bridesmaids, but I am unsure about asking either of them to be MOH. Would it be crazy weird just not to have a MOH?
I might just go with the 2 bridesmaids and 3 guys we've got. Or I would possibly ask 2 other girls to be in the wedding party, and then we still might have uneven sides.
Any ideas of how to have uneven numbers of guys and girls line up in a wedding party?
posted by Mel 9 posts 5 months agoI don't think there's anything wrong with having uneven sides. If FI and I were having a bridal party our sides would be uneven. We're having a destination wedding and originally I was to have 2 bridesmaids and he would have 1-2 groomsmen, but most likely one. Well, now we're not sure if his one groomsman can make it to the wedding (travel to our wedding is pretty costly) and I didn't feel right having 2 girls stand by me and no one stand by him. So...we nixed the whole bridal party idea. That way we have no worries. It'll just be him and I at the alter.
Anyways, I got off subject. hehe. I see no problem with you having 2 (or 4) girlies by you and FI having 3. I'd rather have the most important people standing with me than "fillers" to make the numbers even.
posted by nejireta 88 posts 5 months agoIf you have a sister or another very close relative, you might ask her. You could even ask your mom to be matron of honor. Honestly, MOH is a big responsibility and it's not something you should ask just anyone to do. If there's no one else you feel is close enough to you to be MOH, I would say don't have one and don't worry about the asymmetry--IMO weddings are about substance foremost, not style. Not that style is unimportant! Just not the most important thing.
posted by MissSnapdragon 88 posts 5 months agoI personally don't see anything wrong with having uneven sides. My cousin had 6 bridesmaids and 12 groomsmen!! They worked it out so that all of the groomsmen stood in the ceremony but only half sat at the head table during the reception...the other half were married and sat with their wives.
Your wedding should be about you and the people most important to you should have the job of standing at your sides. If this means that you have uneven numbers, so be it! Once you decide the number on each side, you can find creative ways to make it so that walking down the aisle, pictures, etc looked "balanced."
posted by peony80 34 posts 5 months agoI agree with what all the bees up there said too:) Hooray for odd Numbers!!
posted by beesknees 269 posts 5 months ago