Best friend Ex boyfriend situation…help!

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Should I invite him to the wedding?
    No, it's ok if he just goes to the bachelor party and doesn't get a wedding invite : (2 votes)
    13 %
    Yes, despite the situation you can't invite someone to the bachelor party and not the wedding : (6 votes)
    38 %
    Talk to him and ask him what he thinks : (8 votes)
    50 %
  • Post # 2
    Member
    878 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2016

    If your fiancé is friends with him he should be allowed to be invited, including to the wedding. People need to be adults and be able to spend 4 hours in the same room with an ex

    Post # 3
    Member
    9532 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    It really depends on the people. I’ve gotten along very well with most of my exes and even invited one to our wedding. I did have one ex that the relationship ended badly and we were both guests at a mutual friend’s wedding a couple years later and it was totally fine. It was actually nice to see him and catch up a little. So I tend to think that people should be able to act like adults and be cordial with their ex in a social situation. But I know some people that don’t agree. So I guess it just depends on their personalities. Are either of them bitter over the breakup or holding hard feelings against the other?

    Post # 5
    Member
    878 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2016

    secretbee33:  if you love them both then they should both be there. My SO really wanted me to go to a reunion party at his college to meet his friends. His ex was there and she is nuts (he has had to change his email, block fb, and she has changed her phone number 3 times to keep calling him despite breaking up 3 years ago) but I still went and dealt with the small amount (ok huge amount) of awkward because he wanted me to meet his other friends and I love him. 

    Post # 6
    Member
    6506 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    If he is still friends with your FI I would invite him to the party and the wedding. Perhaps your FI can just let him know that your friend will be there with her new SO and then he can make the decision about whether or not he wants to come.

     

    Post # 8
    Member
    9532 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    secretbee33:  Yeah, I think you’ve got the best idea. Let him know that he’s welcome but that you won’t be upset if he’s not up for it!

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