- 5 years ago
My best friend of quite sometime (attended the same college and current roommates), one I consider like family, hinted at me last night via text that she needs a favor. The favor is one that she could not say directly, but all the hints lead to my conclusion, marriage with her boyfriend of 2 months. She stated that its something she wants me to be by her side for and involves going with her and her boyfriend to the circuit court tomorrow. With that being said, i’m almost a 100 percent positive she plans to get married. Well just lthe other night when I was out with them having a few drinks, he called her out on talking to other guys via text, which she did not deny.(she let him go through her phone…) Apparently he called her out for a similar instance a week ago and last night warned her, he will give her one more chance. Now I know my best friend and knew this already, because in general she is flirtatious. Of course I was there holding her hand, as shes crying and hes having this talk with her about how wrong it is. Everything was fine afterwards, but he did say he will always remember this and now obviously he has trust issues with her.
He is a nice a guy, but there is something about him I just cant put my finger on. Sometimes he seems to get moody if what were doing just involves her and I or if hes at work and we decide to go for a run, he complains that he wanted to go too. (he invites me to do things with them, but like I said gets moody and quiet if its just her and I or another friend). Example her and I went to a concert and he was acting all quiet and moody it seemed because he wasnt going and admitted a few hours later, that he wanted to go to this concert via a social network site. Now to be honest, I maybe hang out with my best friend once a week, if that and we live together, in a small apartment. So there are times that I just want it to be girl time. Whats funny is he knowingly knew that him and her were going to a concert two nights later and it was an artist I liked. I did not complain or act moody, because I know that I do not need to be involved in everything they do, but I feel as if he thinks he should be involved in everythin her and I do. To add to this, he also said he would go to a concert I mentioned about going to with her, just to say he went and saw this artist. In my logical opinion why would you go see someone in concert you dont like? I believe its because he doesnt know how to not be around her. As I said hes a nice guy, but theres something I just cant put my finger on about him. He always wants to be around her, even if it means interupting girl time or becoming quiet and moody, almost to make her feel bad I believe. Maybe im overthinking it, but he never hangs out with his guy friends anymore and has practically lived with us non stop in our small apartment. For the most part I keep my opinions to myself and a smile on my face, although sometimes his actions, are bothersome. Last example the other night when we were out, he stated to me, things will only get worse before they get better (referring to having to possibly move in with us because his apartment complex is being torn down.), him saying you never know what could happen even a couple months from now, with your friendship (my best friend) or even his relationship with my best friend. I dont know how to take any of those comments. Hes also under the understanding that her and I will be signing another year lease, which she stated to him again the other night, and he says hes completley ok with that. He treats her right, but sometimes I wonder if hes being manipulative and such by how he acts and what he says.
At this point, I am blind sided by her text not even 6 hours ago asking me to go to the circuit court tomorrow afternoon with her and her boyfriend. I cannot grasp the idea that she is doing this, spur of the moment (pretty sure no one else knows, except me, but I could be wrong) Honestly I dont agree with this at all and not sure how to handle this situation. She stated in a text last night, nothing will change with the apartment situation and she will update me later. How am I supposed to act and feel with this situation or what to say to her? I dont want to piss her off and lose a friendship, but on the same hand i’m not sure I can witness this. It happened way too fast and especially after the other night, him calling her out on talking to other guys. Not sure if they think this will fixt things or what. This is VERY hard for me to see/hear, because I want to be supportive but just cant. Not sure what to do or say to her or even if I should show up later this afternoon with her to the courthouse (fearful of friendship falling apart then if I dont). Not only that how can she expect me to live with a married couple, this changes things quite a bit and I worry most about his intentions. Again nice guy, but seems to be manipulative/by how he acts. What should I do?!?!