(Closed) Best friend getting married spur of the moment later today, advice please!!!

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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179 posts
Blushing bee

A few things you can do:

1) tell her that you do not agree and do not show up

 

2) Forget about it and phone her back with a lost cellphone story

 

3) Just shop up and pretend you are happy for them. Check the internet for divorce lawyers, she might need one very soon:)

 

Post # 5
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Worker bee

This is such a bad idea on so many levels!! Marriage after two months? They barely even know eachother!

Several years ago, I introduced a coworker of mine to a close male friend. They hit it off immediately, and six weeks later, headed to the courthouse to get married. I discussed their impending wedding with both of them and begged them to take more time to get to know eachother, but they didn’t listen. Three months later, they were divorced.

You owe it to your friend to talk her down from this. Whatever the rush is, it can wait. I don’t know how old y’all are, but this sort of rash decision making is never a good idea, especially if the couple is fighting about texts and trust issues.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@susieq18:  I know this might sound juvenille, but what if you tell her mom? I mean, I can think that I met my husband when I was 23 and he was 28. I’m pretty sure if, after two months, I wanted to run down to court and get married, my mom would have KILLED ME. Don’t get me wrong, she loves my husband, but 2 months is way too soon.

Beyond that, you have talked to her, she is being an idiot, and unfortunately, I bet this will end is some sort of divorce.

Only other thing I can think of… is she pregnant and not telling you? It’s pretty old school to get married because you are pregnant these days, but perhaps there are benefits that she wants access to or something?

Post # 8
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1855 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@takemyhand:  I totally agree, I fear my mother’s wrath. She ripped me a new asshole and didn’t talk to me for a month after getting engaged 4 months into a relationship. I’m pretty sure she’d fly across the country just to yell at me, if I was married after 2 months.

Post # 9
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1686 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

You can’t make anyone else’s decisions (or mistakes) for them. You’ve talked to her and expressed your concerns, and now she’s going to do what she wants. You did your best as her friend, and there’s nothing you can do about this, so go along and be hopeful for her future happiness. 

 

Post # 10
Hostess
7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

All you can do is tell her that you don’t think it’s a good idea, then support her. She’s been a good friend to you and didn’t do anything to hurt you – you shouldn’t judge her choices. 

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Tell her to stop acting 12, that this is a baddddd idea, and if that fails, i second calling her mom!!!

Post # 12
Hostess
7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

I can’t believe we’re seriously talking about calling her mother. This is a grown woman who can make her own decisions. Judging her is only going to hurt her and push her away. Friends are supposed to support you, not control your life. 

Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Her excuse is that she wants to be unique?  I guess she’s in a hurry to join the quickie marriage/divorce club along with Britney Spears and Kim Kardashian.

You’ve already expressed your concerns.  I would drive separately and tell her privately that you can provide a getaway car if she changes her mind at any point in the process.  Oh, and divorce is way more expensive than a marriage license ($92 license and $365 for divorce in my area; not to mention the bad credit my ex gave me.)

Post # 14
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Helper bee

So did your friend get married?? Did she go through with it?

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