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This is a bit of a vent
My best friend showed me her wedding dress the other day and apart from it being a bridesmaid dress which she ordered in ivory and her dress costing $300 and mine costing $2000 they are so similar....to top it all off she bought identical earings white hair flower and bracelet....I know imitation is the sincerest form of flattery but come on!
not to mention she got the exact same engagement ring and wedding band as me....
I don't know why this gripes me so much it just does, I guess cause I went to so much effort finding unique things and now she has just copied them
The first pic is her Alfred Angelo dress
Here is my Maggie Sottero RD1044
and here is a pic of me in it so you can see the earings etc
I can see how that would be annoying. But how far apart are your weddings? If you got married over a year ago and hers is still a while away, it might be ok. Are there a lot of overlaps with your guest lists? I was a bridesmaid a few years ago and wore your wedding dress in a latte. It's a gorgeous dress, so it's bound to be popular.
But having the same accessories and engagement ring?! That's just so odd!
@winerygirl: Are you sure it was my dress, it isn't made in latte http://www.maggiesottero.com/dress.aspx?keywordText=rd1044&keywordType=any&page=0&pageSize=15&style=RD1044
and it has a long train and is $800 Us +
I think yours is much prettier.
It's frustrating but the dresses are different, and yours is much nicer. There's nothing to do but take it as a compliment.
I agree with @winerygirl: having the same accessories and engagement ring?! That's just so odd
@simpleandchic: The bride got a seamstress to make it. I'm not sure where she got the inspiration from.
Your dress is much more detailed and beautiful. Her dress looks like a bridesmaids dress. I don't think anyone will think that they are alike to be honest and if they do, yours is the hands down winner.
How sad for your friend that she can't come up with any original ideas, and has to copy yours. The part where she wanted the same rings is kind of creepy, actually.
I would kind of feel sorry for her, actually... I would just ignore her. She definitely can't overshadow you and your dress, even if she does her best to imitate.
wow. yours is much prettier by the way... oh... and since your wedding will first everyone that does remember your dress will think how much of a copycat she is.. so no worries there! I wouldn't worry about it too much.
Yes, the dresses may be *similar*, but there are SO many differences between the two I am almost hesitant to say they are. Your dress looks absolutely amazing and expensive. The fabric and details on yours is what gives it that gorgous bridal look. I am not sure why but her dress looks more night-gownish to me. Maybe it will look different in person but judging by the pics, she aint got nothin on you!
Agreed kinda creepy though! Atleast you had your wedding first. Maybe you should buy the bridesmaid version of her dress (her dress in a different color) and wear that to her wedding!
I would be annoyed at this friend for copying. It sounds like she really admires you and your taste in all things wedding, but that doesn't give her an excuse to blatantly mimic you. Would saying something like "wow, that's weird, everything you've picked looks EXACTLY like mine?" open her up for conversation? Needless to say, your Maggie absolutlely trumps her AA "knockoff".
@smiles731: I'm with you. While there are some similarities, I don't think they look that much alike.
It feels to me like if I said that anyone who wore a strapless, chiffon dress with beading was copying my dress.
And I've seen lots of people with wedding sets similar to mine. Again, I don't think they are copying.
@Mrs.KMM: she's my best friend and the dresses are in very similar fabrics 9may not look it in the photo cause its from a site where u can change the colour of the dress by clicking which always makes the fabric look flat) with flower straps over one shoulder, think of all the different styles out there she has blatantly copied me. And I have been on WB for 3 years and have hardly ever seen this style in a wedding dress so its not common or popular wedding dress style
Your dress is much prettier. Don't let her bother you. She just looks like she's ripping you off. Be flattered that she liked your design enough to copy it.
If she's your best friend, is this sort of behavior typical of her? Does she typically mimic the things you do? Do you think she's doing it to piss you off? If not, I wouldn't be concerned w/it.
I agree that your dress is prettier, but I don't agree w/everyone ripping on your friend as much as they are. Sure, I'd be a little annoyed, but then again, I'm also the type of person to bring it up. Maybe she just really liked your ring & dress? Maybe she's the type of chick who thinks it's cute to dress the same as her friend. Odd, but... it happens. Are her wedding colors the same? If not, I think you'll find that she won't look nearly as similar to you as you think. Are you upset that she got her dress for so much cheaper? If it makes you feel better, your dress looks like the more expensive of the two, for sure.
Your wedding looks like it was beautiful. Be proud of that! If this bothers you that much, don't be afraid to talk to her about it. There are definitely ways of doing it w/out seeming like you're accusing her of pulling a Single White Female. 
I think while the dresses are similar, they are not the same. Your dress looks much better and it should because it cost more.
Brides do often look around for inspiration, and I guess, she looked close to home and copied off you. It is annoying but she is your best friend and I don't think this is worth losing a friend for.
They say Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery. There must be something about you that she somehow wants to emulate, she may not even realize it. It sounds like she has some form of self esteem issues. I would just leave it alone and be there as a friend and hope that maybe during the wedding process she will find that part of her that likes herself.
haha..that's so strange of her...but you obviously inspired her and she may not even realize how similarly she will look, etc. Your's looks much more bridal. I wouldn't worry, you are already married, everyone knows you didn't copy anyone.
I would never pick a dress which is similiar to a close friend's but sometimes it's hard. I mentioned the kind of dress I wanted to a friend after I got engaged. She got engaged shortly later (but her wedding was earlier than mine) and she bought the kind of style I wanted;) I ended going with another style.Problem is, friends influence each other all the time.....
In your case, your wedding was first so everyone will be comparing her dress to yours. And your dress is a real wedding dress so it beats the first pic (which is also pretty in a more simple way). I guess the only way they are really similiar is the flower toga thing and the empire waist. The material looks different though.. I wouldn't worry too much. Yours has the wow-effect:)
I don't know. That style of dress is pretty popoular. It was one of the very first I fell in love with (I have since changed my tastes). I mean annoying yes, is it a crime, no. I could understand you being upset if you hadn't had your wedding yet, but yours is over a year old. Every bride wants to think that her details are unique but really we all copy from one another. Take it as a compliment, I really don't see the big deal.
Despite your "friend's" tackiness, once she's helped herself to your ideas, there's not a lot you can do about it even if you discover her treachery early on.
I would be livid!
As girl who does not hide facts about how I feel about thing girls do or keep the “unknown feelings girls have for one another a secret” if I was in the circle of friends I would think she was jealous of you and feels she has to have what you have or close to it because she wants to be you. In turn I would personally stay away from her. Not as you the bride (I don’t know your personal relationship with her) but as a friend of you both, I would try to keep distance from that one because I hold the ring my FI game me very highly and emotionally to my heart so to have someone mock it would make me angry because in a way weather I wanted it to or not it would make me feel it a bit less special…not less special in meaning or towards my man and what he gave to me but in general! Please excuse me if that sounds selfish but in some ways you need a bit of this is mine and my way, go find you own way! I may be a mean girl sometimes I guess but we all are to some degree…we are woman.
Could be worse, she would be trying to compete with trying to get what “she” thinks is better than your yours for herself.
I actually do not think they are that similar. But, I also have a crazy eye for detail. With that being said, your dress definitely is the better of the two...no doubt.
I have quite a few weddings coming up this year, and if any of my friends picked a dress I deemed similar to mine, I honestly wouldn't care. You could put 5 different girls in the same dress and they will all look different in it. I doubt anyone will even notice the similarities. Or care for that matter.
Sounds like she really loved your wedding, and now she doesn't feel like doing any of her own work, so she is copying yours! This would irritate me, but I wouldn't let it get in the way of a friendship. I still understand where you are coming from, though!
That would annoy me a lot too. I'm sorry :( I don't know why she'd want to do that in the first place!!!
I do want to comment and say how beautiful your dress is, though! WOW!
Who cares? Your wedding was a year ago! I promise, no one but you, very close family and very close friends are going to remember or care what you were wearing at your wedding a year ago.
Get over it. Your dress and accessories are all very common--lots of women have those things. Your dress was off the rack--is everyone you know not allowed to have a floral one shoulder dress? Your same dress is available as a Chinese knockoff for $150. Variations of that dress are all over. Is no one else allowed to have a white hair flower? You can go on Etsy right now and find hundreds of those things. Your wedding rings were also likely purchased at a large retailer just like your dress. Thousands of other women have the exact same set as you. Do you have nothing else better to do with your time and energy than comparing your wedding that was over a year ago to your friend's wedding?
@zomgwut: I agree that the OP shouldn't sweat this, but it is a little weird that this friend of her's has the same rings as her, bought the same accessories as her and picked a dress that has a lot of simularities to her own, lol. If it was just the dress, or the rings or the accessories, it would not be so weird, but all together it is rather strange.
I hate that whole 'copy-catting you is a form of flattery' b.s.
Back off and get your own style, or if you're unsure and like my taste ask for my help.
But F off with copying me.
@zomgwut: I agree in many ways- but there are far nicer ways of putting it.
OP- If this person is truly your BEST friend, raise it with her.
@zomgwut: Wow your comment to Simpleandchic was a bit harsh. While you're correct that alot of her items and dress are items that can be purchased by nearly every engaged women in the world, I don't think that was the point. She's upset b/c she spent a long time creating a style, look and feel that she could call her own and then is being blatantly copy-catted. It would bother me too. It's annoying and quite frankly a bit creepy.
I would take it as a compliment and move on. It looks like you had as lovely wedding, and hopefully your best friend will, too.
Yeah, they're similar. But your wedding already happened and you were first, and I wouldn't let myself get bothered by it at this point.
We went to a wedding 11 months after ours, and it was almost exactly like ours... navy pintuck satin linens, ivory chaircovers and napkins, a cake that looked just like ours, a candy buffet that looked just like ours, BM bouquets were the same flowers, table centerpieces were the same (half tall with orchids in water in tall cylinders, half shorter with white flowers in cube vases). It was really kind of weird.
The couple had gotten engaged RIGHT before our wedding, so I guess maybe she just got her ideas from our wedding? Anyway, it bothered me for a second, but I got over it pretty quickly. There weren't very many of the same people at both weddings, and since mine was first, it wasn't like there was any chance anyone would think I copied her.
Anyway... the dresses are similar, but not at all identical. White hair flowers are SO popular, so you can't really fault her for that one. The earrings... that's a little weird, but you can't help it if she has similar taste in earrings (after all, you're best friends... you must have a lot in common). As for the rings... was that even her decision, or did her FI choose them?
Sure your dresses are similar, just like two mermaid dresses will look similar...so not the same at all. And few rings are really that unique. I don't see the problem.
Hahahaa I see some things never change eh?
There forever will always be the S*it disturbers on the Bee!
I just can't understand the mentality of someone who would notice or care about this sort of thing. I can understand being a little bit weirded out if she had a custom replica made of the OPs custom dress but both dresses are popular styles bought off the rack! The things that the OP used to develop her "personal style" are mass produced all over the world! Her "personal style" is nothing of the sort! That hairstyle/dress/overall look is plastered over every single wedding website and magazine.
There is no nice way to point out to someone that they are acting in self centered and ridiculous manner. It's not all about her and it's certainly not all about her wedding that happened over a year ago. It's her friend's wedding and she happens to like the same things that thousands of other brides like. It happens.
It's not like anyone is going to go to her wedding and then say "Well, now that I've seen a similar dress, I just don't care about simpleandchic's wedding anymore!"
It really won't effect you one way or the other if she's using your ideas, so why stress out about it?
I don't really see the similarity between the dresses.
Plus your wedding is over, let your friend do as she pleases.
@zomgwut: it was just a vent, if you cant say anything nice keep your opinions to yourself, some of your comments were really harsh. I did put a lot of effort into my look and wedding in general. And I really dont think my look is mass produced. I dont think I have ever seen someone on here be so rude!
Update...here she is in my dress look a like....
She definitely has a similar dress than you, but she has the poor man's version. Obviously she likes your taste in clothing, etc. Is she as savvy and original as you are or is she a follower? So did she purchase it already? if not, go shopping with her and help her try on other styles...but if that dress is the one that makes her cry, she's going to buy it and there's not much you can do.
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